By Elisa Novick
We exist in an unlimited universe in an unending lifestream and yet we can experience the phenomenon of missing someone. It is a pain that aches and says, “I wish I were with you” or even, “I’m not OK when I am not with you.” When that happens, being present is gone, peace is gone, freedom is gone. Large portions of energy can be held in that pattern.
I find that when I miss people (or my tree friends, pets, places, etc., but for the purposes of this article I will refer to people) it is because I am recalling my sense of their vibratory pattern playing through me, either because I stir it up within or because something triggers the memory.
Yet it is not the entire experience, not because I am not with them physically, but because I am not utilizing my entire ability to commune with another being. I might be judging that communion without the other present is not enough; that I need the outward response, but is that true?
When we work in family or systemic constellations in private sessions, in which the others in the group are envisioned as standing in spots on the floor, or seen in the mind’s eye, or laid out with coins, etc., we often get a clear response from the others in our constellations. The quality of the relationships and the changes in quality as we go through the process are easily “read.” You could argue that these may be just fantasies, and surely we know how to mock up all kinds of things.