It’s Nice Not to Be a Special Snowflake

By Maria Padhila

So I’m poking around on the Internets, waiting for the conference call to start, and since it’s a Monday morning I check out the always fine Molly Lambert Mad Men recap on Grantland. If you don’t know this U.S. TV show, it’s a drama about the advertising business in the 1960s (and a great look at how it grew into a monster that got us into this mess, if you ask me).

Poly Paradise at Burning Man. Photo by Eric.

I’m reading about ketchup and Dante’s Inferno and that handsome Don Draper, the lead character, who’s always catting around:

Don thinks sexual liberation means a traditional marriage with extracurriculars behind closed doors, and only for the man. His values may have been somewhat avant-garde (‘European’) in the buttoned-up ’50s and early ’60s, but they’re totally retro with regard to feminism and free love, doomed to put him entirely out of step with the forthcoming sexual revolution. … Don would hate polyamory because he gets all of his deviant kicks from lying.

Ha-ha, yeah, you can say that again, I’m thinking. He’s been such a jerk this season, with not wanting his wife to work, and not supporting the women at the agency even as little as he did in the past seasons

Wait.

Just one minute, there.

Did you see it, too? OK. And first, let me tell you that Lambert is a sort of mainstream writer. I even looked her up to make completely sure that she hadn’t done a book on poly or something and I’d missed it.

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