Editor’s Note: With the Full Moon amping up relationship energy and planets clustered in passionate Scorpio and Leo, it seems like perfect timing for this steamy post by SeattlePolyChick about a first “sexy type” date with a new partner at a kink play party. Her posts appear on her own blog, plus over at lifeontheswingset.com. — Amanda
By SeattlePolyChick
Sweetnesses — If you date or love me or just don’t wanna read about sexy times with others, skip this one. Muah!
I attended Myself! for the first time tonight with Boss, on our first ever play date. I got nervous beforehand and did this thing I often do before a big date. I didn’t want to go. It’s not that I actually don’t want to go. It’s that I get nervous. It occurs especially when it’s a first time “sexy type” date. I get all excited and look forward the date, and then all of a sudden it’s here and I feel like there is pressure and I don’t want to go because “What did I do? Setting an expectation for sex!?” I’m a weirdo.
I went and was happy to go, but on the way there I was nervous. I’ve talked to Boss quite a bit though and I knew I actually wanted to go and that whatever happened it’d be a good time. He seems like a genuinely good person and I’m quite sure it would have been no problem at all if I’d said I didn’t feel like having sex. Feeling like I could say no at any time conversely made me want to have sex again. Like I said, I’m a weirdo.
The Myself party is a masturbation-friendly party that has morphed into this really cool party with lots of things and a huge attendance. It may be one of my favorites. It’s open to members and non-members and it’s relatively cheap, and the atmosphere is pretty hot. There are rules in place to make people feel safe and it’s more open than most of the parties I’ve been to at the kink club.
Pretty much anything the club allows is allowed and a few things are allowed that seem unique to this party. First, there are lots of men and lots of men masturbating. This is not allowed at most parties. I loved that! It’s funny how comfortable it made me feel to have men undressed and touching themselves, watching people play. They were just somehow… more vulnerable or not at all predatory in this way. They were just appreciators and that was less intimidating. I really liked it. It made me very comfortable to be naked and to play around them with them in various stages of undress and/or masturbating. It appealed to my exhibitionist and voyeur streaks.