It’s OK When I Do It and Other Double Standard Delusions

By Maria Padhila

A veritable epidemic of mendacity: that’s the kind of phrase I’d think I’d need to be holding a glass of neat bourbon and wearing a bra slip to pull off, but unfortunately, today, it’s a commonplace observance.

Poly Paradise at Burning Man. Photo by Eric.

We’re in the midst of the shutdown animated by a deep commitment to the principle of “When I do it, it’s OK.” The Teabagger faction says: Don’t let government have anything to do with healthcare, but when I pass a law that lets me stick a probe up your vagina, it’s OK.

Don’t scale back on White House tours, but when I shut down the National Park Service, it’s OK. Don’t use schools as a place to teach your liberal science, but when I want to hold Bible study and call it chemistry class, it’s OK.

Newt Gingrich to Pat Robertson: It’s OK for me to dump dying partners and blabber about starting a colony on Mars, but that Obama, he’s not acting “presidential.”

It goes on. And on. I’ve been hearing so much double standard talk that I decided as usual to examine my own behavior first, and decided to write this week about double standards in polyamory. So I went to Google and typed in “polyamory double standard” and up popped the Cunning Minx show on that very topic, in this very week.

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