Maria Padhila
I began writing this as I was making some chocolate chip cookies, because that’s how polyamory works — when it’s one guy’s birthday, the other one gets chocolate chip cookies, too, even when the other one says, no, no, I don’t need those things, I’m supposed to be in training. Cookies for the house, and whiskey for the horses!
It’s pretty cold out, in case you hadn’t noticed, so I thought I’d share some of the media I’ve enjoyed over recent months. If you have the time and the access, these are great to curl up with.
First, stop the presses ’cause I don’t know how it escaped me until now that (graphic novel writer and more) Neil Gaiman and (musician and more) Amanda Palmer have an open marriage. Here’s an interview from late last year that goes into some of it, including how they deal with trolls.
They have a refreshingly offhand attitude toward their relationship structure, but also acknowledge that it takes a lot of talk and honesty.
Question: Being polyamorous I’m often curious how others arrive at opening their relationships. How did you two breach the subject of an open marriage and was it a result of rigorous tour schedules or have all your relationships been open?
NG: We both came from closed relationships (although Amanda had tried all sorts of relationships before that one). We both wanted to be with each other, but also we wanted more than that. From the very beginning of the relationship, in early 2009, possibly even before we started actually going out, we knew we wanted to be free to be with other people when we were away, and that we wanted to build the kind of a relationship in which that would bring us closer. So far it’s working pretty well.