By Maria Padhila
This blog post is not going to be Nice. It’s going to be grumpy and finger pointing and complaining and I. Don’t. Care.
The habit of requiring niceness from everyone around you, at every exchange, is one that is pretty much guaranteed not to get anyone to speak to you honestly ever again. I think there are lots of ways to be both kind and honest. Much of these require the conscious creation of an environment where listening matters. This is why you rarely find kind and honest speech on the Internet, right?
In the attempt to be nice about everything, even when one’s own discomfort or anger is triggered, some twisted forms of exchange have become more common. With Mars retrograde in Libra — force in diplomacy — the manipulative and the weaselly is ascendant. I know this: I have Mars in Libra (they call us the iron fist in the velvet glove), and Mars turned around right on top of my Mercury/Mars conjunction.
So I decided to take a look at three of these things that really set me off — and I’ll tell you that straight out. They can also do a number on your relationships, polyamorous or otherwise.