*(Fear of Missing Out)
By Maria Padhila
How many times have you settled down on a Saturday evening for a fun game of Sex Toy Bingo with your triad, only to sigh to yourself, “Wow, this would be a lot more fun if there were more than just the three of us!”
Well, maybe you never have. But you’ve probably had analogous thoughts sometimes. You’ve wondered why things couldn’t be a little more fun, or you can’t meet the people who really like the things you do, maybe.
And to tell you the truth, it’s never happened to me, either. Mostly because I just made up the whole Sex Toy Bingo thing. I don’t think such a game really exists, but it sounds like it would be fun, doesn’t it?
Maybe I should make it up myself, if it sounds so fun — and then find some people to play it with. And that is my point — if you want a poly gathering that fits your needs and desires, make one. Like Burners and Pagans and a bunch of similar intersecting groups, polyamorous people not only respect the Do It Yourself ethic but do it. Don’t say: “I wish there were some poly people around here to play with, but there aren’t any…” Even on the lone prairie, they are out there. And you can rope them in with the right events.
This doesn’t mean that if you’re out there on your lonesome, whether it’s in the middle of East Hicksville or in the middle of a city, and you’re curious about polyamory, that you should put up a bunch of flyers with your address inviting people to a potluck. That might not work — or it might work too well.