Dear Eric,
I’ve enjoyed your blogs and horoscopes for some time now but have never thought to write.В I am hoping, though, that you might be able to give me some insight.
I am a Scorpio, and I’m in a relationship with an Aquarian. He is from Armenia but lives in Brussels. I am from the West Coast but live in Wales. You can probably imagine the distance is a struggle.В Anyway, we’ve been together since October 2005 but since April 2007 things have been more ‘life’s a bitch’ than ‘life’s a beach’.В He has had immigration problems and political and family problems back home. He works and goes to classes 12 hours a day and our communication has really disintegrated, meaning it feels like we are loving and trusting each other less.В The easy answer is to finish and let each other go in peace. The problem is that I love him and deep down feel that things will eventually smooth out and come right. I don’t know. There is the added problem that neither of us is totally straightforward, having both experienced broken hearts in the past, so that also makes communication difficult.
If you aren’t totally swamped, would you be able to give me some advice?
Thanks
T
Hey T
I can elaborate this in a longer answer, but think of it this way. Were you not coming from monogamous paradigm, this question would not matter so much: there would be no question that you could ride the relationship out to better times; and not sacrifice your own needs. Unless you are sure that being with another man would absolutely alienate him, which might be a reason not to. But the toggle switch is one issue as I see it. Also, distance relationships are inherently difficult because it’s not possible to shareВ many things up close that are the basic stock of being in one another’s lives (such as food); but the world has opened up to these vast networks of communication. So it’s natural that we would use them, and I think we need to devote a whole topic of life to the theme.