That sense of need you’re feeling: is it real, is it realistic, or is it in your imagination? Whatever may be the case, it’s the Moon square Venus. This is the aspect that feels like the Dr. Seuss book, Are You My Mother? While it’s given a special designation in astrology, we all feel this one most of the time — but address the feeling different ways.
Some will figure out where their power is and use it on, with or against others. Some will ask for help. Most (because so many of us are so insecure) will quietly wait for something to happen; for someone to offer some nurturing; to pay attention to us in a way that we can benefit from. In a world that is more self-centered than nearly any of us usually conceive of, that last method is unlikely to work.
Generally we must assert ourselves against the environment, including the human environment. And with the Moon in Aries, a fire sign, that subtle sense of conceit (not the metaphysical kind, but the ordinary one) may be in the air: the fiery Moon will struggle with empathy; and that process may be unconscious. In other words, there is a struggle but it doesn’t have a name; and the awareness of the results is disconnected from the cause.
Venus is in Cancer. This is attractive, but it’s often emotionally self-serving. The Moon is in Aries and can have the same property. Both are a bit aggressive, in the sense of making sure their needs come first; not everyone is aggressive, so some of us will be transgressed as others do their thing, a touch oblivious to the world around them. This is a choice; the choice to feel one’s environment, to empathize, to sympathize, which is an actual gesture of submission, if momentary.
Here is the question: how do you learn to feel? How, particularly in the face of so many instances when we expect others (more sensitive than we care to be) to do all the feeling for us (Note, this is generally the role assigned to artists and writers: to feel and be vulnerable, on behalf of the rest of us. They are the canaries in the coal mine of society.)