I am researching Mars retrograde in Leo, which I am casting as a subtle polyamorous revolution, and I found this article, called Evolutioary Tendencies, which is currently hosted on Sexuality.org. This is an excerpt of an article written in approximately 1999. – efc
FOR SOME REASON it’s still controversial to openly admit to having or wanting more than one long-term intimate partner. It has sizzle. The idea can make you angry and nervous, or hot and curious, or both. Jealousy can arise like a reflex, or more accurately, reflux. Eyebrows go up. Your credibility is on the line. You’d better have a good explanation.
“You may be in a conversation with a seemingly rational person when the topic of non-monogamy comes up,” says Brett Hill, co-editor of the quarterly Loving More magazine, a Colorado-based central information point and philosophical forum for the polyamorous community. “Your friend’s demeanor changes. What was a decent conversation suddenly becomes a verbal assault, and it’s personal. It’s as if there was a military unit that trained each U.S. citizen in the defense of monogamy to bring out the big guns and annihilate discussion of anything else.”
Hill sees part of his mission as keeping that discussion going, and debunking the myth that monogamy is the only moral or spiritually legitimate way of life. It’s fine, he says, if that’s what you want, and if that’s what you’re really doing, but quite often it is neither. “In many ways, people function in two separate and often contradictory spheres,” says Hill. “One consists of a set of proscriptions concerning what behavior ought to occur. The other consists of what people actually do in concrete instances when overt behavior is observed. The two are in direct conflict in most every aspect of sex, marriage and family life.”