Now that Sunday’s Gemini eclipse has us embracing our dark inner twin, and Mercury’s overnight conjunction to Jupiter in Taurus has us ‘thinking big’, the sky is reminding us to ‘keep it real’. Tomorrow at 4:55 pm EDT, the Gemini Sun squares Neptune in Pisces. On Friday, Mercury does the same.
Since this is Neptune we’re talking about – planet of the fuzzy dreamtime and porous boundaries that let the water seep through – both squares are in effect now. As it is, this two-week period between eclipses we’re in now is likely to be marked by a sense of time moving quickly and depositing us someplace further along the trail than usual. Eclipse periods can feel a little surreal even without Neptune involved. So the idea this week is to track any eclipse revelations you received carefully. Keep them front and center so you can integrate them consciously, rather than letting them slip back into the shadows.
Especially with the Mercury-Jupiter influence last night, you’ll want to check that any ‘thinking big’ you do is still in integrity with your larger goals. Fantasy has its place; acting on them takes clarity and clear boundaries.
Again, sometimes even without Neptune in the game things can get a little slippery. Consider that a few years ago, a survey titled “The Day America Told the Truth” revealed that 93% of Americans admit to lying “regularly and habitually” at work; 35% admitted they have had or were currently having an affair, which they were keeping secret from their mates.
We’re a culture of white liars. It feels harsh to hear; we all want to believe we are good, honest people. Most of the time, for the most part, we are. Some of the time, most of us aren’t.
Brad Blanton has addressed this in his book Radical Honesty – which is, as you might guess, pretty radical. He advocates for telling the truth to your parents decades after ‘borrowing’ the car without permission – or decades after they stopped abusing you. The affair you had, the fact that you think your coworker is ugly – or that you’re attracted to him – are all on the table in a process intended to be therapeutic, even if it sounds harrowing and barbaric at first.
Really? I’m supposed to tell someone something hurtful, just for the sake of honesty?
Really. Here is some of Blanton’s rational for the process – and he emphasizes that this is a process; this is not hit-and-run honesty. In answer to the question, “Is it possible to be completely honest without hurting a person’s feelings?” He writes:
“Probably not. … I recommend you hurt people’s feelings and stay with them past the hurt. I also recommend that you offend people. We can all get over having our feelings hurt and we can get over being offended. These are not permanent conditions; they are feelings that come and go. On the other side of that reaction is a conversation in which your mutual honesty creates an intimacy not possible if you are hiding something for the sake of someone’s feelings.”
He notes that when you are hurt or offended – and speak your resentment out loud, specifically addressing what was actually said or done – you get real dialogue going. And you’ll likely get over the anger you feel in 20 minutes – as opposed to 20 years of avoiding that anger, or holding back a lie.
Dishonesty, says Blanton, eats up a huge amount of energy – energy that could be better spent on creativity, better productivity at work, more fun in personal relationships, hotter sex. It’s energy we’ll need to have at our disposal in this ever-quickening world in general, and through the astrological events of the next few months especially.
Most of us aren’t going to suddenly walk around spouting truths we’ve been keeping secret for years any more than we might lob Molotov truth cocktails at strangers in the grocery store. We can, however, take this opportunity of the Sun and Mercury squaring Neptune to keep one eye on our integrity, and to practice. Forget laying a guilt trip on yourself. This isn’t about being moral or ‘good’. According to Blanton, this is strictly practical: “If you go out and tell each other the truth you’ll be happier. You’re better nurtured in a world in which you’re telling the truth than you are in a world in which you’re cowering, hiding and lying.”