One of the topics I don’t feel I’ve done a good job at covering is polyamory, or responsible nonmonogamy. It’s a difficult subject to cover because one must hurdle over so many points of resistance and the weight of so much cultural baggage. I have given it a try a good few times, and these are some of my essays, as in experiments. I have a new experiment tentatively scheduled for Friday’s edition, called The One and the Many, looking at polyamory and Mars retrograde — which goes beyond all these theories presented below.
For starters, let’s visit The Seven Definitions of Monogamy. Here is an all-time favorite called A Crazy Little Thing Called Compersion.
Here’s one that I originally wrote for Rob Brezsny’s page: Poly is Political: Choosing the Freedom to Choose. Here’s one called For the Love of Money!, also from the Sexuality.org series referenced below. Here’s one called Evolutionary Tendencies.
Here is a more recent piece about raising kids in polyamorous environments.
Since Poly Living 2010 is in about two weeks, you will see more coverage of polyamory on these pages: I will live blog the conference, as usual.
This is my last post for the day!
With love,
Eric Francis
This post has the best timing! I have actually been thinking about polyamory a lot lately. I have been in a monogamous relationship for a little over a year now and it’s been amazing. But the past couple months I have been attracted emotionally and sexually to someone else. I’ve been trying to only like him as a friend but every time we see each other (which is very often, being that we work together) I can’t deny my feelings. I don’t want to feel this way and definitely don’t want to ruin my relationship. I have been very confused about how I can feel this way about more than one person. It’s been driving me crazy trying to figure it out. This post has helped a lot. Now I understand that these feelings are natural. Next thing to figure out is, how to explain this to my boyfriend. Yikes!
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