The One and the Many

Note to readers: This is the introduction to the lead article from today’s Planet Waves Astrology News, also cross-posted to Cosmic Confidential. While this article does not mention astrology, it’s based on Mars retrograde in Leo, opposite a lot of interesting recent activity in Aquarius. The full text of the article was mailed Friday morning, along with today’s full premium edition, including Political Waves by Judith Gayle and the Planet Waves weekly horoscope by Eric Francis

Dear Friend and Reader:

The other day, an email came floating into my inbox from a website called Care2, claiming 12.5 million subscribers. The subject header of the email read, “Monogamy vs. Polyamory: Do Open Relationships Work?”

View from train bridge, Rosendale, NY. Photo by Eric Francis.
View from train bridge, Rosendale, NY. Photo by Eric Francis.

Naturally, I thought: this ought to be pretty interesting.

The writer gave her analysis a title like a boxing match or a legal case. Mono versus Poly is now in session! All Rise! The article commenced as such (literally, its first words): “Non-monogamy is about one thing — sex. And sex is good.”

(You can tell she learned her writing style from The Bible.)

It went downhill from there, fast. Faster than I ever thought possible without jet propulsion and a lot of lube. “And sex with different people — either concurrently or over the course of a lifetime — is good too. Sex is so good that some people are addicted to it. Sex makes people do crazy things and it makes people feel amazing things. I love it just as much as anyone else, but there is more to life than sex.”

When you see the word ‘but’ you can usually tell how things are going to go. Her premise is that since polyamory is about sex, and since sex isn’t everything, polyamory is nothing special to concern oneself with. The author, whose name is Polly, continues: “I am pretty sure that the words on your deathbed won’t be, ‘I wish I had had more sex with more people’. Maybe if you’re a pervert, or if you didn’t get much action in your life, you would say that, but most people wouldn’t.”

I will spare you any more. This article, while one of the less eloquent and less favorable recent mainstream reviews of polyamory, shares one thing in common with every other article on the topic that I’ve ever seen: it sets polyamory and monogamy against one another as irreconcilable opposites.

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Weekly Horoscope for Friday, February 19, 2010, #805 – BY ERIC FRANCIS

Pisces (Feb. 19- March 20)
Know good times when you’re in them — and you are. These are not the kind of good times that melt into the background of history, forgotten because of their comfort. Rather, this is a moment that stands out rather than stands back, and which you may consciously, willingly and lovingly use to enter a new phase of your life. I trust that you feel a certain energetic relief, the ability to relax and the growing sense not that you have enough, but that you are enough. Keep that feeling, and remember the idea, if you lose contact with the inner orientation. It is fair to say that everything is about to change — in ways you would have wished for, if you could have ever predicted what is possible.

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  1. Wow, thanks for the link. I can’t afford to subscribe right now. Your Libra ‘scope is totally in the groove of wushu, the arts of stopping war- the deeper meaning behind the Asian characters that are usually translated as martial arts. Thai boxers would disagree, but the Taoist forms I study have a saying- martial arts are not for fighting. You practice the Taiji forms slowly to cultivate deep and accurate inner sensitivity which then translates into fast and loose when it needs to be, but in true Libra fashion where you’re so in tune with your insides that even if someone manages to disrupt your root temporarily you’ll probably land on your feet 😉

    stand like a nail, move like the wind-

    a Bagua Quan mnemonic phrase

    groovy tunes.

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