Today’s Oracle takes us to the Cancer weekly for Feb.4, 2000
On television, in books and in the movies (where we meet all our most vivid role models) we meet characters who undergo every kind of moral test, challenge, ordeal, experience, adventure and misadventure, save one: What fictional character can you think of who has ever become sexually free, or even dared to try? What real-life person can you think of who has given it a real try? Is it not a strange phenomenon that society (with extremely rare exceptions) skips over this one teensy little aspect of life? Well, I don’t suggest you succumb to the temptation not to go for it now. Sure, it seems dangerous. Yes, people will say things. Yet most of what they will feel will be envy for you who dare to seek what we so often want, men and women alike, above all else.
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P. Sophia, it is I who am honoured and very touched by your words. Many many thanks.
Daniel: Thank you for sharing your experience with me! Some things are so much bigger than our selves.
If there is one thing I may share it is the experience and awareness, made evident time and again in my life, that out of something feeling so bonding, controlling and fearful, from the point of chaos, can transcend openness, opportunity, change, new beginnings and freedom. Although there are dark and challenging periods in our lives, as we all know out can arise the most beautiful blessing of one’s life. This was my son for me and in my having to deal with this root-pattern of personality and dynamic, my faith was tested and continues to strengthen. I believe our time and understanding can limit meaning and purpose, as we know it. There is a time and season for everything. And I am certain there is a wheel of a rebalancing of vital male-female energy currently in a great transmutation we are a part of exchanging. Yet is on such a deep level, we may not even be able to comprehend. Although I am a part of, it is beyond me, I can release it.
Have you noticed, or ever considered that in these times of crisis in our personal lives instead of pushing ahead, as our society tries to control and dictate is the way to proceed and overcome, maybe we are really being invited to stillness for the potential for balance of energy. With the blessing of a call, to rest in trust and faith instead?
I wanted to share my story, as it was a very positive breaking away, for me a resynchronization of male-female energy patterns resembling what a good part of our society and world has held for generations, really from the beginning of time. My experience was and continues to be sexually freeing for me. And as a result, my son experiences and observes a different view one of considering what is mutual respect in relationship. But of course he also sees the opposite play out in our culture and world. Deep down he knows what is right and of value and will make his choice as we all do each day, in every moment which path to choose.
There are plenty of sensitive, compassionate, creative, self-aware men out there. And you are a one of them Daniel. You stand here, among the few, in great expression leading the way. I would be honored and proud if my son turned out like you, and he is already well on his way. It will take a special lady to appreciate this deep expression of intimacy in you, but she will come along…when the time is right with you.
Lizzy: Just thankful, for you being you. xo
P. Sophia, Danile, was so touched and inspired by your beautiful comments, your courage and awareness. P. Sophia, speaking from personal experience, last week’s eclipse brought some of my deepest, darkest demons into the light, and now that there are so many planets in Taurus, feels like there’s some peace at last – and the space for some quiet healing. Thank you for your beautiful comment last week. Happy healing to you!
P. Sophia, first, thank you for sharing your reflections and experiences. I think it inspiring and I congratulate you very much.
I know first hand what it’s like to observe my mom fending off negative male energy, manipulation, and obsessive behaviour. My mom was incredibly strong and brought me up on great values, the Taurus she is. She had it tough because it was what she observed as a young girl. As much as she could, I think she tried to bring healing to that father image for me, both in her example as an independent woman who was able to say no and through the culture of art she brought into the home. That gave me the permission and example to be a creator myself, channeling a lot of unspoken grief and frustration. As I grew up, she instilled in me ideas of responsibility and accountability, both healthy male attributes. I lived in a home with my sis and my mom, with the only other dude around being my awesome cat Fred (after Fredrick Chopin). So, I also learned to appreciate women a great deal by hearing their needs and processes. There is also anger and resentment, and a general apprehension of being dominated by willful women…but I think there’s a yoga posture for that one…. đŸ˜‰ I also have a healthy voice, which is the best… and a bike.
I think my “issues” arrived as I was in the throngs of puberty. I wasn’t given the permission to explore sex in the same way as my creative side. That had a lot to do with my mom’s fear of sex and intimacy (which was communicated subtly and not so subtly), mainly due to abuse, and because she never had it growing up. My process of becoming the “right kind of man” didn’t make mental space for sex play and exploration with my female peers. Hence I moved closer to a desire to control my sexual behaviour and energy, which morphed into spirituality, devotion, and my eventual ordination as a buddhist monk – and consequently I didn’t have an experience of individuation until much later in life.
While my mom continued steadfastly on her healing, she still projected fear and distrust towards men and male energy. I’m sure I took some of that on in those years. Although, the antidote to “fear of intimacy” for me lay in my practice of opening the heart centre in visualization and prayer – something deeply profound and unconditional, and powerful on a different level of being. And because I am me.
My mom has always recognized her shortcomings on this front and recently spoke incredibly candidly to me about her missing an actual healthy sexual relationship experience, and her fears and distrust of men. I’m on my own path now for a while, and I think that in my own sexual healing and openness, I’m giving her permission to go further into her fixed ideas, values and hangups. She’s reading things and in touch with people I would have never guessed possible 10 years ago, even 5 years ago.
I’m not sure any of that was helpful or not but I wanted to share it.
Cheers!
Depends how you define sexually free. It is interesting the date of this of February 2000 tho.
It is when I was just about 4 months into my pregnancy, trying to make a fake go of living with and, 1 month engagement to a horrible, wrong man for me for the sake of our situation and the coming child. When I knew for a multitude of reasons (as i did from day one with him) there was no way in hell I could be with or certainly chained to in marriage in this lifetime to this controlling, manipulative man. And more importantly, I knew our dynamic would have been detrimental to my son’s life experience and psyche, as it was the same pattern I had to live through in my family experience growing up.
So sexually free… yes, I made the cut and the jump then. And he, went temporarily slithering away. Of course I have still had to deal with and accept his tyrant behavior in our life, but I do not have to own it! It is a lesson in value of freedom and responsibility, that I pray my son learns by my example from me.
And this morning, coincidentally I have tons of this same manipulative, controlling energy swirling in at me from all sides it seems. Along with the current mundane astrology, I also just noticed i have Sun’s transit trine my natal Pluto. I feel some healing of this energy is at hand.
Tonight I have Venus conjunct my Natal Jupiter coming round. I hopeful of good feelings with this influence. Has anyone experienced either of these personal aspects and their influences? Your experience would be interesting to learn and appreciated if shared.
Thank you-
“It’s May! It’s May!
The lusty month of May!
That lovely month when ev’ryone goes
Blissfully astray.
It’s here, It’s here!
That shocking time of year…” (Camelot)