Eric,
Sari says that the word Hell was coined in the 16th century. The word is a much older name for a Northern European goddess by the name of Hel or Hella from which the name of the country Holland is derived. The word was stolen, appropriated, corrupted in the 16th century, not coined. Interesting synchronicity tho as her image is half skeleton, half beautiful woman. Reminds me of the lead photo from Book of Blue, the discussion of Nessus and recognizing our wounds and all that. To worship her is to accept the whole wave of existence, not just the part above the horizon. The Teutonic Kali? Yeah I think a huge part of our culture’s wound is to sweep Hella under the rug and hope she goes away, all the noise and poison of our culture a ruckus of massive proportions to drown out our fear of the silence of the dead.
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Also I wanted to continue the conversation about non-ejaculatory orgasms we started in your daily blog a couple of weeks ago. I lost the thread as the speed of my life went into warp drive for a little while. So with non-ejaculatory orgasms you’re not forcibly holding back the semen. I see it as integrating the inner feminine in that you’re not rushing to the edge and falling over into squirt-gasm, but slowing down, even stopping for long enough to fall back from the edge. You don’t chase after an orgasm, you let it find you when it’s ready. Part of the technique does involve strengthening your pelvic muscles, principally the Pubococcygeus muscle that’s like a sling stretching from the tip of your tailbone to the pelvic bone holding the root of the penis and prostate gland in a man and the vagina in a woman. But you’re using the pelvic muscles more to direct the Qi away from the automatic desire to make babies into a more intentional desire for healing and self actualization. Sperm has more functions that simply to make more humans. It’s vigor is also like a battery in your root.
The real trick to non-ejaculatory full body orgasms isn’t slamming shut the gates, but redirecting the Qi from up and out to down and in, into the Microcosmic Orbit which is comprised of the governor and conception channels recognized by acupuncturists. The governor channel runs from the root up the spine, over the center of the head, down to the upper lip where it enters the mouth and connects with the tongue when you close the circuit by touching the tongue to the roof of the mouth. The conception vessel begins where the meridian emerges under the bottom lip and descends down the center of the front of the body back to the root. When the Qi, or the energetic portion of the sperm learns to run in spirals around your body’s interior it isn’t so anxious to leap up and out. You can still ejaculate periodically with these techniques, and you should depending on your energy level based on interior sensitivity. Sperm is only deflected into the bladder if you’re doing it wrong. Mantak Chia calls it a retrograde orgasm when that happens. Ideally the sperm never leaves the seminal vessicle. I can feel the difference because it burns when it enters my bladder. Sperm is relatively hot.
As for the energy loss this isn’t theory for me. It’s based on years of practice. I used to ejaculate from 1-3 times every day so I didn’t have any means of comparison. But now that I only ejaculate maybe once a week or less I can compare my energy state to days when I don’t ejaculate. I find I need to eat more and my overall energy state is noticeably weaker for a whole day following an ejaculation. Musicians like Miles Davis recognized this a long time ago and refused to have sex before a gig. Of course, if he’d known how to have non ejaculatory orgasms he could have still had sex!
I know from my experience that before 2006 when I started to practice non-ejaculatory orgasms my overall energy state was weaker, I got sick more often and I had less will to get things done, more of a tendency to complain rather than do.
Sperm is powerful stuff and all of your organs sacrifice part of themselves to make it. Calling upon them to make more on a daily basis is hard on them. As for why women experience a similar energy slump sometimes, I don’t know. I’m not a woman and don’t have the direct interior experience with a woman-body like I do with my own.
Interior sensitivity is another aspect of integrating the feminine, or rather what men have tended to project onto women for the last 5000 years of empire building or so. It isn’t a matter of slamming shut the gates and holding the sperm prisoner by force. Developing vivid internal sensitivity so that you can feel when you’re approaching the lemming cliff where all men who don’t learn how to control themselves plunge when they have an orgasm is what’s needed to slow down, fall back, let the intensity subside enough to keep from falling over the edge into squirt-gasm. Internal sensitivity is also the core ingredient of learning to circulate your sexual qi rather than always shooting it at a target with the primal desire of making more babies. With this type of sex you’re not blindly chasing the prey of an orgasm with all your force extended. You’re maintaining a fire, keeping it from going out and also preventing it from burning down the house. You’re not seeking an orgasm, the orgam(s) find(s) you when they’re ready and when they do you’ll recognize the pathetic squirt-gasm as an evolutionary cul-de-sac we humans were steered into by empire builders who wanted to direct sex into the sole purpose of breeding more soldiers and slaves.
I discovered a lot of this by experimentation and by talking with my acupuncturist and kung fu teachers. I also learned a lot from a book by Mantak Chia called The Multiorgasmic Man. It combines ancient tech from Taoists with anatomy and research in the meme of western scientific method. You’d love it as it treats masturbation and anal stimulation as perfectly natural things as though they were no more a touchy subject than washing your hair or brushing your teeth. I wish I’d had that book when I was 12.
I hope this clarifies a little better what I was talking about in the original post. By the way, thank you for your courage and honesty in talking openly about sex. That’s the first step in taking back our power from the empire builders to heal ourselves and our relationship to the homeworld.
Groove on,
g
Eric:
I suppose it’s possible the words are related but I was referring to the Norse goddess Hel who presides over Nifelheim, basically the underworld. She’s probably much closer to Hecate in her overall vibration. The Greeks called the Northern Europeans Barbarians so I doubt they would have adopted one of their goddesses…at least not intentionally. Maybe the words share a common root further back in Gaia’s Story than ancient Greece or Pagan Scandinavia.
I’m not much of a linguist so I don’t really know.
<< Sari says that the word Hell was coined in the 16th century. The word is a much older name for a Northern European goddess by the name of Hel or Hella from which the name of the country Holland is derived. >>
Greg – do you mean Greece? Which is, locally, called:
“Hellas” redirects here. For other uses, see Hellas (disambiguation).
This relates to Helen of Troy.
I give up. Words only confuse people. Here’s some music. Bon appГЁtit.
http://web.me.com/wandering_yeti/Wandering_Yeti_Arts/Lovely_Devils.html
Actually, I don’t think of the squirt-gasm as pathetic. I LOVE feeling that happen inside me and LOVE the feeling of it oozing out of me. I have a piece of him in me for a while like a token of his pleasure in me. It makes me all slippery and ready for the next time. The smell makes me think of him and I feel blessed.
A map is not the same as the journey. With a map one more or less has a blueprint at the very outset. Such speaks of mere efficiency rather than an explorer’s spirit.
We might ask which approach really approximates closest to mastery.
Me being me and you being you. Me knowing me and you knowing you. You knowing me and me knowing you. How much scope for fluidity in exchange? How much scope for loss of ego and surrender?
Do I consider myself anywhere near full capacity? Hardly! The bottom line is that I want to touch the other and be touched by them. And how rich is that touch, how literal, how metaphorical?
The most authentic levels of touch come from a place that the mind cannot comprehend. And so, nobody controls that..
I may transcend myself and recreate myself and I am at the centre of my experience, not an outsider peering in.
Oh, how I long for more of that in my exchanges. That is something to strive for that never frustrates in its absence, merely drawing more vision for the possibilities of true desire.
And each time the cosmos places a different cherry on top of my cake – well I’ll gladly see how it tastes each time that I arrive at that luxuriant place
Greg’s Libra ascendant sincerely apologizes for his Pluto/Mercury square’s harsh words. Not everyone is a Capricorn sun square an Aries Chiron poking and pushing the goatfish to strengthen itself. Not everyone has Uranus in the first house distorting perspective and making the individual self feel like it’s living in the wrong time. It really didn’t occur to me that people would take that little word squirtgasm so personally but now that it’s splattered all over Planetwave’s front page blog I can see how it would be easy to take it personally. Sorry about that.
“…I know that Wilhelm Reich believed that you had to have a complete letting go for orgasmic potency, but I don’t think he ever had the opportunity to study anyone who knew how to circulate energy through the channels of their bodies….”
One positive result of the Tibetan diaspora is that we now have those who have studied these techniques – and much more! – walking among us here in the west. Of course, these powerful practices not only require an authentic teacher but also an authentic student – but those who ask with a pure heart do receive guidance and instruction.
Contrary to blaming our culture for not appreciating this type of commitment, these practices have been closely held for centuries as they require a high degree of maturity and discipline and can be misunderstood and misused.
On another note – I’ve hear no mention of Stan Dale in these pages. He was the founder of the Human Awareness Institute and the creator of the HAI workshops on Love, Intimacy and Sexuality. They are accessible to most of us ( in the USA, UK and Australia) and provide an extraordinarily ‘safe’ environment to explore one’s sexuality in. They may not be for those who don’t like guided groups but I participated in them and can highly recommend the journey – http://www.hai.org/.
From wintry Sydney,
Linda
I would agree with Sari here – and I think we need some deeper compassion than squirtgasm. I’ve heard this term twice on these pages now. The men that experience this or anything like it, need to be treated with the same compassion as pre-orgasmic women, or as anyone on the cusp of their sexual evolution, which is all of us.
I have suggested before that many men do not actually orgasm. They might experience a pleasant physical experience of climax, but that is not necessarily the full spectrum experience of orgasm. Men need a way to communicate with one another and with women about this whole subject in a way that leaves nobody feeling shrunken down.
So here is an offer to the men who feel like they something approaching full capacity: describe your experience, not from a technical standpoint, but from an emotional one.
most people don’t get enough regular hot sex to practise these techniques, and when they do they’re mostly just trying to survive the moment. in an ideal world, we’d be having rolling orgasms all day long, but we’re at the end of the world as we know it, and whatever gets us through the night, is probably exactly what we need.
its just another thing to feel guilty about. ‘the pathetic squirt-gasm’?. is a very belittling term.
we’re so undersexed and overfed that we’ve probably got excess sperm that needs showering over adoring temptresses. plus its a top moisturiser.
There’s a lot of other stuff in there like learning to circulate your sexual energy so it’s not always stuck in your pelvis with the only way to express itself being to shoot something, up up and away. Ok, pathetic is a mean word. Maybe a better way to say it is that I prefer the soft hum of bodymind basking in the glow of circulating energy, my whole body awash in light following the pulsing waves of ever increasing orgams to the rush to the peak and the hard plunge that almost always accompanies an ejaculation. Your mileage may vary.
I know that Wilhelm Reich believed that you had to have a complete letting go for orgasmic potency, but I don’t think he ever had the opportunity to study anyone who knew how to circulate energy through the channels of their bodies. If you don’t know how to engage the microcosmic orbit the only way to satisfy the urge is in fact up and out. Of course it takes time, persistence and discipline to develop these techniques and most people aren’t interested in that sort of thing in this give it to me now throw away culture we’ve created.
Thanks to Greg for the reminder to worship all of existence, and his phrasing “not just the part above the horizen”. We forget. I forget. It’s important, and indeed the answer but not easy…
According to Darwin, evolution has always been competitive. So maybe evolving isn’t always the superior path. I mean, after all, what name do we give to unbridled growth?
I think it’s harsh.
“the pathetic squirt-gasm”
This phrase stands out..
another great book: The Tao of Love and Sex – the ancient chinese way to ecstasy, by Jolan Chang.