Today Juno is conjunct Pluto in Capricorn. This is the first such conjunction in Capricorn, where Pluto has been for four years. The prior conjunction was Oct. 30, 2008 in the last degree of Sagittarius, shortly before Pluto changed signs and a week before Barack Obama was elected. So factoring in Capricorn, tonight’s conjunction is something that no living person has experienced.
I’ve been writing a lot about Juno the past couple of months, mainly because the Sun was conjunct this asteroid in the 12/21/12 chart that was supposed to have heralded the end of the world.
In that chart, the Sun and Juno were both square another asteroid, Atlantis, which actually has the theme of “the end” as well as the chilling fears that can manifest when there is the sensation that we are abusing our power in some way. Atlantis lurks like a reminder in the collective conscience that there are consequences to our actions, particularly if they are both destructive and conscious. One result of that lurking is projecting the fear outward as a sense of doom.
Yet Atlantis in the 12/21/12 chart was commenting not on technological power, nuclear bombs, or politicians using the debt ceiling to hold the American public hostage to their absurd positions — it was commenting on relationships, and the marriage model in particular, as being a focal point of saving the planet.
Actually that is fine with me, since it’s something that we can actually do something about. We have total influence over our relationships, if we want, though there is a lot of historical momentum carrying us forward. Now Juno has moved about 8 degrees since the solstice, and it’s conjunct Pluto, which is legendary in its power to change things.
It looks like Juno has met her match: this is a moment of change or die. About what? Juno represents marriage and in Capricorn, the social structure of marriage. That is indeed changing at this time in history; though it’s common sense to some, it’s pretty significant that gay and lesbian couples can now marry. (You know we’re really making progress when bisexual people can marry a man and a woman.)
In my reading, Juno conjunct Pluto in Capricorn is the antique model of marriage being recognized for what it is. Pluto is politely called an agent of transformation, but that typically means one idea or incarnation of something must die so that another can be born. And it is time.
There are a number of problems with the Juno model of marriage. I refer not to the mythological figure, who does a pretty good job of following the pattern, but rather my analysis of the discovery chart of Juno, which I published for subscribers in December.
That is based on a real struggle in stating one’s emotional needs. It’s based on a sense of threat, injury, the feeling of being boxed in and a state of over-identification with the relationship, propping up a deflated sense of self. In short, the Juno model is based on anything except love and devotion.
Jealousy is a complex emotion; it’s one of the core emotions inside of the emotional knot many of us are trying to untangle. One of the biggest problems with jealousy is how it seems impermeable to examination. Someone who feels jealousy often declares himself or herself god of the universe, expecting every other emotion to bend to their will. It’s one of those emotional experiences that really gives the feeling that it’s bigger than we are.
It’s the thing that we come up against when we say the word ‘polyamory’ and half the room has a gag reflex. It’s that thought that the person you sleep with might — openly — sleep with someone else. That is jealousy. And that gag reflex is preventing the evolution of our prevailing relationship models into something that is not based on property rights but is rather based on love.
One of our contributors, Green Stargazer, wrote to me today: “For me, jealousy has always been more about the intersection of self-esteem, the use/abuse of power and how we use/abuse partnerships to prop up a deflated sense of self; that along with the strange sense of ownership and entitlement that we humans can create when it is not appropriate.”
Juno conjunct Pluto is saying it’s time to give this up for something better. It’s time to allow progress to move forward. It’s time to recognize that we don’t die when a relationship changes; we only change. So part of this is about not blowing up the experience of a relationship changing into the emotional equivalent of impending death.
In transforming jealousy, each of us will have to do a piece of the collective work, and all of the work within our own sphere of existence. Every relationship will change with every person who changes; it’s going to go in that order. The relationship is nothing more than the people in it and the ideas they share — whether functional or not.
We will never actually deal with jealousy until we take it as a teacher. It points to many other related problems that we face, and addressing it honestly is, in a sense, a key to enlightenment. That takes courage, I know, and it takes going into a space where many things you took for granted are moved over into the ‘uncertain’ column. Sooner or later, that time comes.
If this topic is interesting to you, I suggest you check out an old article I wrote called The One and the Many. There are more resources bottom of that page.