How Writing Erotica Changed My Sex Life

Editor’s Note: A couple weeks ago, we posted a piece by Rachel Kramer Bussel about why she wants her boyfriend to fantasize about other women. This week, we’re featuring her piece about writing erotica that originally appeared at Refinery 29, in which she notes that, “Erotica helps me identify and process the way my sexual mind works, which in turn shows me how far I want (and don’t want) to go in the physical world.” — Amanda

Rachel Kramer Bussel; photo by Anya Garrett
Rachel Kramer Bussel; photo by Anya Garrett

By Rachel Kramer Bussel

I owe my career in erotica to one controversial woman who made headlines in 1999: Monica Lewinsky. While muddling through law school, I had been reading a lot of sexy lit. So, when I noticed a call for celebrity erotica stories — to be compiled into a collection called, appropriately enough, Starf*cker — I penned a fictional story called “Monica and Me,” in which “me” and Monica get it on.

That story was published in 2000, and I’ve been writing and editing erotica ever since. No, I don’t sit around all day and picture how to get character A naked so she can ravish character B. Instead, my ideas usually come from a far more personal place.

Continue reading this article at Refinery 29.

Rachel Kramer Bussel is the editor of over 50 erotica anthologies, including The Big Book of Orgasms, Hungry for More, Women in Lust and Flying High: Sexy Stories from the Mile High Club. She writes widely about sex, dating, books and pop culture, conducts erotic writing workshops, and tweets @raquelita. Read more at rachelkramerbussel.com.

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