Today’s Oracle takes us to the Gemini weekly for June 25, 2010.
Having support is mostly about accepting support: that includes embracing encouragement, material assistance, companionship and relationships with peers that help you focus your talent and drive. I suggest you engage in a conscious process of actually taking in, embracing and receiving. Most of us are taught not to trust those who would offer to help; there is presumably some other motive, which involves being taken advantage of. Do the math and you’ll see that this translates to: help = harm. If you have even the vaguest traces of mistrusting those who would help you, purge them from your files now, lest you contaminate the goodwill of others with the fears of your ancestors or the disappointments from your own past. Conduct your life as an active exchange. Many are depending on you, and you on them.
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‘Get your shit together’:
Love that title!!!! 🙂
Thank you for your kind wishes, Paolo! I do hope so too – he’s been my entire life, I am not looking to undo all that we’ve shared. Hopefully, I can get through to him.
Dawn, I sincerely wish and hope that things resolve gracefully for you both. Thank you for helping me to learn as well, and for sharing.
Thanks Paolo!
I don’t think there’s any subconscious undermining going on. He and I are just 2 very different people and for 25 of our years together, I’ve molded my needs/my life to fit into his life, as that what was needed, and my life/work had looser boundaries/could be more adjustable, than his more-structured work life. Eh, not any more, however.
Part of it is that he has not adjusted to my not being able to fit my world and needs into his schedule, thereby putting his needs first. He does try. And I’ve told him repeatedly, don’t go thinking you know what I need, *ask* me what I need. But, many men just don’t take to not being in control and *asking*. They just take action.
Eh, not that he even needs to ask, I’ve told him so many times already, I feel like a broken record – he’s not retaining the info, or rather, *his* ideas are overriding what I’ve told him I need. Yes, maybe there is something in him afraid to relinquish control over my life….
He does honestly think he’s helping, and does want to help. But I’m just going to have to tell him to stop helping me. His helping me is hurting me. And it’s been pushing me away. I’ve been wanting to run away for 2 years now, which he knows. Having these talks w/him, though is SO draining on my already overwrought and exhausted system. So, once again, I need to broach all this crap, but keeping it short and calm. He needs to abide by my needs or our marriage is in real trouble.
He and I have had many lives together, and not all of them happy and healthy. We joke about it, but it is *critical*, in this lifetime, that we truly learn how to love each other, instead of kill each other (and what he does feels like sabotage.) It seems he’s having a hard time accepting what *loving* me now entails.
Hi Dawn, thanks for sharing your story here and there! I wonder what is disallowing your husband to help in ways that nourish you. I’m sure there is a bigger story here that weaves a story not so simplistic. I wonder if anything is threatening him and causing him to control a situation out of fear of surrendering to an outcome that he thinks undermines his energy. That’s not a judgment on him, certainly I don’t know him. But I’m wondering about his illness (or condition) too and possibly repressing some vital component of his character that needs an upgrade. The stress put on you manifests as an overload to your computer system. You seem very conscious of your person, I’m sure you are working hard to make things work.
Best wishes!
Paolo
In an ideal world, the help one receives is actually what is needed. For 2 years I’ve been battling to get my husband to listen to me and give me what I need, in order that I can get well. He invariably comes up with his own ideas, in an *attempt to help* which undermine my health. Taking direction doesn’t look to be in his Italian, emperor-knows-best DNA. He’s a Pisces, but you’d never know it from his personality. He may have Leo rising (as I do), but he’s far more Aries-like (as I am), even tho he’s not even near the cusp.
On other fronts, however, I’ve usually found that the Universe provides help, often without asking. Expenses so far incurred to repair my Mac had to be borrowed. The Universe sent me orders for my patterns, to cover about 2/3 so far. I also have friends (tho all virtual, what else is new these days?), who love and care about me. The one person, tho, who I need to/should be able to depend on, I can’t.