Today’s Oracle takes us to the Libra weekly of Sept. 28, 2006.
From the look of your solar chart, it’s been a challenging but meaningful few weeks. A dramatic solar eclipse followed by the Sun’s ingress into your sign last weekend signaled the end of all the struggle, but it turned out that there was one last knot that had to work itself out during the past few days. That was the real turning point, the break in the pattern and the point of no return. Your astrology says that what you’ve been struggling with is the concept of purity, perfect fidelity and impeccable devotion. The wisdom of having an option to these weighty notions is finally becoming obvious. Living through changes, and indeed living at all, is something we do in practice, not in theory. Family Focus: Your self-confidence and sense of freedom will rub off on everyone.
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Perfect oracle for me today relevant to this chat thread on my FB early this am:
Me: I keep trying to remember NOT to do for people what they can do for themselves.
TP: You’ve been trained by profession and by culture to give til it hurts. people do need to do for themselves, and sometimes they will fail. But sometimes they need to have a little free fall to remind themselves to pull it together.
Me: Yeah. That’s where not helping comes in. I’m tempted to cycle between doing it all for them and abandoning them completely. But I had a counselor who used to talk about this mysterious middle ground thingy…hmmm…
Me: You know how when you’re working with the babies, you don’t do it all? Just scaffold and what to see if they can make up the difference? That’s the middle ground.
Me: That’s right. I think it’s having a positive effect already. My sister is coming over to work on getting her act together tomorrow. I’m not giving her money. I’m giving her ideas.
TP: Very good. I had to kick K– out when we tried to help her cause she just got instantly comfortable and incredibly needy the minute she landed here. It was intended to be a leg up, not a permanent gift.
Me: But I did attend a phone bridge alanon meeting this evening…
TP: Good – those can be very helpful.
Me: I told my sister that our mom-in-law quarters was a launching pad, not a nest.
TP: That’s right. You have to keep saying it over and over though, the dependent personalities have remarkable powers of non-hearing.
Me: Yeah they do. My suspicious mind accuses her of learned helplessness or something more malicious. But I think your free fall idea is more accurate. I’m going to have to let her fall to get the benefit of the wake-up bump.
TP: My yoga teacher scolded me this week and said I have blocked third chakra, which is where victim mind and lack of commitment and doubt live. I was very mad and insulted at him and then I read everything in the world about third chakra and thought well dammit, he’s right. I do have blocked third chakra. Even strong people are tempted to have someone take care of them, if it’s easy enough.
Me: It’s funny, I’m realizing I focus on these needy women and their problems instead of focusing on the ways I don’t take good care of myself.
and changing that.
TP: bingo. you know you get to feel extra powerful when you are taking care of someone else.
taking care of yourself will give you more sustained power though. I deplete my energies so utterly and that’s going to make me nobody’s superhero.
Me: Exactly. Where has my creative energy gone?? Sucked into my codependent black hole.
TP: yeah. negative energy has such a strong gravitational field.
Me: I love that powerful feeling of being needed. But I’m worn out with it now.
TP: same here. i’m really working hard to rebuild my reserves. i’m feeling like a budket with a hole in it. Like Dear Liza.
bucket
Me: Giving out of an overflowing bucket is easy and what is given is valuable. But when you don’t refill the bucket….my counselor used to use this analogy/metaphor, whatever..
TP: I think at 55, we have to store up and love ourselves and keep the budket full, or we shorten the time and the quality of our lives.
Me: That’s true.
Hey, lovely conversation. Let’s move forward with that resolution!
TP: Righty roo — off for my glass of milk. Sweet dreams to you, chica!
Me: love you!!1
2:54am
TP: You too!