Are All Taureans Bad for Me??

 

September 2, 2005

 

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Dear Eric,

 

All my life I have had major problems with people born under the sign of Taurus: my first husband, an abusive relationship, a bullying boss, a possessive relation, and a best friend who was anything but friendly behind my back. All these people have had a major impact on my life. Is this a coincidence as my husband claims or should I be very wary of all Taurus born people? At present another Taurus has come into my life via my work situation, someone who I have to work closely with. I would appreciate your advice,

 

Regards

 

Carol

 

 

Dear Carol:

 

Well, I can see what the issue is. But I don't think Taurus people are bad for you. I think you need them, and need to learn how to work with them.

 

Taurus is a fixed sign. You don't have any placements in Taurus using the basic planets; but notice how much activity you have in the other fixed signs -- Leo (North Node and Pluto), Scorpio (Venus), and Aquarius (Juno and the South Node). You have no major planets in Taurus, but Taurus completes a grand cross in your chart. So everyone who shows up with a Taurus Sun (or Moon, or other important placement) gets mixed into your grand cross, and thus begins to play what you might call a karmic role in your life.

 

We see this kind of thing happening all the time in astrology.

 

I would not be surprised if most of these people were born in late April or early May, because they would fit in the most directly, but it could work with any mid-spring birthday.

 

I can only speculate, since I can't talk to you about several of these relationships and see what they have in common, besides you. I think you're using Taurus people to fill an energetic void in your chart. There is a sense of a "missing piece" that they may be showing up to fill. At this point, the energy in your chart is turned on, and you then have to address certain personal issues that were always there, but which suddenly appear at full strength.

 

Do you have any idea what those may be? I am not suggesting you blame yourself, but is there anything you actually learn from these people? Patience, for instance, or to throw the small wastepaper basket, rather than the large one?

 

You have a heck of a lot of Gemini -- by the chart we have here, I see five different planets: Uranus, Vesta, Mars, Saturn and the Moon. If I were you, I would want a lot of Taurus people in my life, for stability and grounding (as someone with a heavy air chart, and plenty of water, I tend to attract Leos, another fixed sign, whom I depend upon for stability).

 

The problem I see is that you seem to feel you are at cross-purposes with these people, and you seem to struggle to maintain your identity as a woman. Let me address both.

 

I say cross-purposes because Taurus squares your lunar nodes (which represent something vital about your purpose, and go from Aquarius to Leo). This is challenging for everyone, and can represent the feeling of a hang-up, unless there is a lot of very clear communication. As someone with such strong Gemini-Sagittarius energy, you're likely to have a different idea of communication than a Taurus-type, who may feel that emailing once a year is too often to keep up with the progress.

 

You're going to need to learn how to communicate with these people. If the relationship is important to you, I suggest you take the advice of Debbi Kempton Smith and bribe this new Taurus guy at your office with baked potatoes. Bring fresh sour cream and butter; par-boil the potato and finish baking it in the office microwave. Put it on the guy's desk, wait half an hour, then get to work.

 

I don't mean to imply that as the woman in the situation, you are the automatic caregiver. I would have said the same thing to a man (even though most guys would feel it's a little strange for their guy office mate to be showing up with a baked potato for them). I mean to say that you need to relate to people who are very different than you on THEIR OWN terms. Now, that, too, brings up a potential gender issue, since woman often seem to be the ones who relate to people (i.e., men) on THEIR OWN terms -- and whatever one may say about this, it's a precious human skill, if one has it. And as far as I can see, there is gender stuff going on in your situation, which I'll get to; but if you ask me, but there is also astrology: it's difficult to imagine two more contrasting types than a Taurus type and a strong Gemini/Sag type. It's like the difference between a cellphone and a tree. You can dial your cellphone all you like; the tree is not going to answer, no matter how many extra daytime minutes it has.

 

Here is the gender thing, and you can look at this entirely irrespective of other people (though this is difficult, since gender inherently implies interpersonal relating between the genders).

 

You have something very important in Scorpio, specifically Venus, which represents one's adult feminine identity. Venus in Scorpio raises the question of the power of love. There is a question of your outward manner potentially being different than you really feel inside. There is a potential conflict between feeling like you can attract what you want, versus needing to aggressively get it. There is a lot of passion, anger, lust, and emotion associated with this placement. Any of that ring a bell?

 

And -- as I said -- the main theme is the power of love. Do you feel that love gets its power from your nurturing, caring, nature; your inherent attractiveness; or because you need to make something happen? When you encounter another person, do you tend to give, or to withhold? How do you feel about the choice you make? In other words, when you give, do you feel good, and healthy, or resentful, or something else? If you withhold, do you feel powerful, or weak, or like you really want to give, or both?

 

Venus in Scorpio is at a 90-degree angle to the lunar nodes, meaning it is the one planet that you MUST address or you will basically stop your spiritual progress. When you meet a Taurus, this person has their Sun opposite your Venus and also square your lunar nodes. You get an opportunity; you get a series of choices you can make; you get an important counter-balancing energy -- and a very powerful one. There is quite a lot of energy contained in Taurus, but like geothermal power, we often need to get it out of the ground.

 

I suggest you be patient, loving and take a lot of responsibility for observing, growing and learning when you meet a Taurus, or anyone for that matter, and see how it goes from there. To do this, you may have to change all your ideas of what you think is fair, but you may make an important discovery in the process. Please let me know if you do.

 

Catch you next week, or see you over at Planet Waves.