Love for Virgos?

 

November 19, 2004

 

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Dear Eric:

You seem to have answers for almost everything... so my good Virgo friend and I were chatting the other day and we decided in this lifetime Virgos must not be lucky in love at all, or so it seems. I am also a Virgo of course (August 29 1969, 10:30 a.m.) Please enlighten me on this matter if you could for I am a hopeless romantic born maybe in the wrong century?

 

Thank you

V

 

 

Dear V and V,

You don't see the many questions for which I have no answer. The trick of this column is that.

 

What century would you like to have been born into? While this is a matter of personal preference, and while the world seems pretty messed up now, for those of us on the upper crust of Western civilization, life is pretty good (I define upper crust as having a bank account, food, a dry roof and access to the Internet).

 

For a woman living in the United States, Europe, Japan and most other industrialized countries, there has never been a time when you have had more freedom, more options open to you, more rights, more privileges and less to worry about. You can go just about anywhere; you can meet people from Timbuktu on the Internet; you probably won't die in childbirth; you are not subject to 'female circumcision'; you are not subject to arranged marriage; you don't need to get pregnant unless you want to; you can get divorced if you're not happy in your marriage; you can own and inherit property; you can practice law (big one); you can be a CEO of a company; you can be in business for yourself; you can ride your bicycle; and so on and on.

 

And while we do get all those horrid conditioning factors that I talked about in one of the answers above (school, TV, etc), we live in a society where there enough enlightened people who can help us get past our problems.

 

That all being said, I can see that your natal Sun is in early Virgo and well within range of an opposition from transiting Uranus in Pisces. This is going to bring a lot of challenge, change, disruption and even a touch of revolution into your most intimate partnerships. Are you up for the challenge? Are you up for men who can think for themselves, who are overtly sexual, and who don't play the game? Look and I think you'll see that they're inviting you to play.

 

Relationships at this point in your life mean letting go of all of the nice, neat ideas and about ourselves and about life that we're with presented here in the fabulous 21st century.

 

I suggest you embark on a course of getting to know men for who they are and not for who you want them to be, or who your mother told you they would be. Listen to their stories and learn about what they go through in this life. I highly recommend a book called "Stiffed" by Susan Faludi, which is a compassionate study of what has happened to men in our society.