{"id":58764,"date":"2012-06-30T15:00:51","date_gmt":"2012-06-30T19:00:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/?p=58764"},"modified":"2012-06-29T15:31:46","modified_gmt":"2012-06-29T19:31:46","slug":"poly-is-popping-out-all-over","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/polyamory\/poly-is-popping-out-all-over\/","title":{"rendered":"Poly is Popping Out All Over"},"content":{"rendered":"

By Maria Padhila<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

This is a short roundup column of some fun stuff happening in the media, because it\u2019s past 2:00 am on a deadline, I\u2019ve been writing for work without more than a few hours sleep for weeks, I need to drive out of here in four hours to spend three days camping in 100-degree heat, Chris is on the couch, and Issac is downstairs in our bed and that\u2019s where I really want to be!<\/p>\n

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Poly Paradise at Burning Man. Photo by Eric.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Sorry to be a lame columnist lately — too many paid work crises. Love? Sex? All I want is sleep. Truly. Please. <\/p>\n

I\u2019m looking forward to things calming down now that some major government moves have happened, and I want to catch up with the blogs and the comments here. It\u2019s nice to know there\u2019s a site where I\u2019ll rarely be bored.<\/p>\n

Part I:<\/strong> I\u2019d been hearing rumblings about a major cable show on polyamory for a while, but couldn\u2019t track anything down. This past week the releases came out: Showtime will be airing Polyamory: Married and Dating<\/em> beginning July 12 at 11 pm. Seven documentary episodes, and apparently lots of sex scenes. The people in it are really great looking — just had to throw that in. It looks as pretty as The L Word<\/em> or Queer As Folk<\/em>!<\/p>\n

And here\u2019s a great surprise — one of the ‘stars’ is Kamala Devi, whose Tantra Theater I wrote about here<\/a> a month or two ago. She wasn\u2019t able to do an interview back then, and I\u2019m worried I\u2019ve missed my window, because I have a feeling she\u2019s going to be pretty booked for a while.<\/p>\n

What was really shocking was that, after seeing so many people talk of awkward, dissatisfying or even deceptive experiences in mainstream media with non-monogamy, Devi had this to say in her blog:<\/p>\n

\u201cWorking with the director, Natalia Garcia, was a rich learning experience for me. She is a spiritually minded woman of vision, who is committed to women’s liberation and conflict resolution. The polyamorous community is blessed to have an ally in Hollywood who is not afraid of sex, nor obsessed by it either.\u201d<\/p>\n

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Somebody… balanced? Unbelievable. <\/p>\n

There\u2019s information and trailers on the Showtime site, but the best place to get the full lowdown is from Alan P., the poly media authority<\/a>. He\u2019s got links and excerpts. Some in the comments say they feel it looks \u201cexploitive.\u201d Hmmm, about as much as The L Word<\/em>? Even though that was fictional and this is documentary, it\u2019s still television — they have an agenda, and that agenda is to get viewers. If something good happens along the way, that\u2019s gravy.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s a bit from the news release:<\/p>\n

\u201cExploratory Docu-Series Dives Deep Into the Alternative World of Polyamorous Relationships: The new SHOWTIME docu-series, POLYAMORY: MARRIED AND DATING, exploring alternative relationship structures, premieres on Thursday, July 12th at 11 PM ET\/PT. Polyamory or ‘poly’ as it is often referred to, is practiced by couples who believe that they can also have deep, committed, long-term and loving relationships with people other than their spouses. Unlike polygamy, polyamory is not based on any religious tenets nor does it involve multiple spouses.\u201d<\/p>\n

Sounds like they\u2019ve got the general idea pretty well down. So I\u2019ll set the DVR and see what happens.<\/p>\n

Part II:<\/strong> I was really excited to see that a pair of filmmakers is trying to get a documentary about Ossie Davis and Ruby Dee<\/a> off the ground. The groundbreaking couple, married for 57 years, broke every myth in the book wide open:<\/p>\n

\u2022\tDon\u2019t ever work with your spouse
\n\u2022\tArtists can\u2019t live together
\n\u2022\tDon\u2019t mix love and politics
\n\u2022\tBlack marriages don\u2019t last
\n\u2022\tMarriages between two big egos never last
\n\u2022\tMarriages between two famous people never last
\n\u2022\tOpen marriages never work
\n\u2022\tOnce you have an open marriage, you can never go back to a traditional one<\/p>\n

Etc., etc. If you don\u2019t know much about this couple, here\u2019s a start — their views on open marriage<\/a>. <\/p>\n

Part III:<\/strong> The movie Savages<\/em><\/a>, which features a MFM triad, opens next weekend. I\u2019ve been seeing some interviews with the actors and actress in it, and all three say they don\u2019t believe such a relationship could ever work in real life. Aaron Johnson even said he thought the female character was \u201cselfish.\u201d Kick-Ass, indeed! Ah, youth.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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