{"id":58600,"date":"2012-06-26T00:01:15","date_gmt":"2012-06-26T04:01:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/?p=58600"},"modified":"2012-06-28T16:20:29","modified_gmt":"2012-06-28T20:20:29","slug":"venus-direct-gemini","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/astro-daily\/venus-direct-gemini\/","title":{"rendered":"Venus retrograde in Gemini: Hail and Farewell"},"content":{"rendered":"

This is part one of our coverage of Venus direct. Here is part two<\/span><\/a>.<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Venus stations direct in Gemini Wednesday at 11:07 am EDT. This has been an eventful six week phase, including a pair of eclipses, Jupiter’s ingress into Gemini, the first contact of Uranus square Pluto, and the Venus transit of the Sun. Children born this spring will have to live to 108 in order to see the next one, which will take place in Sagittarius in 2117. The next (ordinary) Venus retrograde in Gemini is in 2020.<\/p>\n

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Lucille at Burning Man, in the Erodome at Poly Paradise. Photo by Eric Francis \/ Book of Blue – Black Rock City.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Venus plus Gemini plus the retrograde feels like the place where emotions meet psychology. Our lives would be easier, if we had more familiarity and indeed ability to be in that space. Mixing our rational thoughts with some feelings and our emoting with some reasoning, it might feel like walking on water.<\/p>\n

My take is that this is a deeply emotional time for many people, though it’s tempered by their desire for something else. Venus making these moves in Gemini is about deepening our relationships to ourselves, and calling back our projections onto others. Much of what we do when we have relationships is relate to ourselves, through the vehicle of the other. In a sense, we often use one another to self-actualize.<\/p>\n

This works well as far as it goes; at a certain point we have to take over the process ourselves. That can be a vulnerable moment.<\/p>\n

One friend recently wrote to me: “Though I am being in my tearfulness and terror and extreme emotional pain, I am being in it (for today) in a way that acknowledges that I am entering a time of giving up dependence, as per my\/our agreement with our therapist. For the next month, at least, as a trial, giving up dependence. I’m scared. Scared of being alone, scared of facing myself, scared of my shadow. But I turn and embrace that fear, that loneliness, that shadow.”<\/p>\n

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Another friend wrote: “I’ve come apart at the seams so many times before, and ran into the arms of some equally broken man hoping to fill the void and be his everything. This vicious cycle of needing and being needed, festering wounds of abandonment and codependency.”<\/p>\n

Not everyone is going through this kind of deep process, though I suspect that various shades of it are influencing many people. Gemini is the sign that contains our ideas of our ‘relationship to self’. Venus is often about relating to others, though in Gemini, inner contact is emphasized. You can think of this Venus station, and indeed the whole retrograde experience, as an exploration of the force that attracts us to ourselves.<\/p>\n

It’s worth stating outright that this is taboo, often uncomfortable territory. As yet another friend wrote to me, embracing the taboo:<\/p>\n

In the light of day, it\u2019s a little tricky not to wonder if I was kidding myself, and rationalizing my desire not to care about the ‘rules’. But this is what I wrote in my journal the morning after the May 20 eclipse, which was the train of thought I\u2019d had just after masturbating during that event:<\/p>\n

Maybe that [the needy, wanting, insecure me] is my true darkness, the part of me I need compassion for, the part I need to love into acceptance and integration, the part that shows me where I really am, & for which I can be very grateful & loving, because it shows me where I need to grow \/ am growing. And maybe my inner slut who wants to be able to fuck this married man without caring [about the \u2018rules\u2019] is showing me something beautiful that I can love as well: that\u2019s the \u2018me\u2019 who knows what she wants, who owns her desire, who understands how sexually powerful she is, who knows that men want her & that she can have them as she wishes.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Relationship to self typically gets fogged over as uncomfortable self-consciousness or self-criticism. It’s often mistaken for narcissism, vanity, egotism and self-absorption, all of which are substitutes or distractions for actual inner awareness and a conscious relationship to yourself.<\/p>\n

There are some people who are naturally gifted at this; their inner experience of self is clear and on level ground. Yet many of us carry psychological damage that directly interferes with our ability to have a healthy inner relationship. This can manifest as any shade of guilt, shame, self-loathing, discomfort or paralysis. It can manifest as competing inner voices seeming to pull you in different directions. It can feel like equally poignant desires and the feeling of having to choose.<\/p>\n

Who is the real you? Discovering that is a journey. Some call it a spiritual journey; others have described it as the path to self-actualization; one of the most dependable places to open up and explore is in therapy process. However you go about it, the significant factor is that you embrace your relationship to yourself as your one truly lifelong partnership.<\/p>\n

It has life on every level of experience, from language to the choices you make, to how you feel when you look into a mirror, to who you are when you relate to others. There’s an erotic dimension, since you are the one lover who you will assuredly have for the rest of your life, and there’s the essential element of a conscious relationship to death. All of these are works in process.<\/p>\n

Venus stationing direct has implications for mundane astrology — such as those of you on job searches or solving financial riddles. I’ll cover those tomorrow. For now, in a word — I would counsel patience. There is no rush, especially right as Venus changes directions, so easy does it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

This is part one of our coverage of Venus direct. Here is part two. Venus stations direct in Gemini Wednesday at 11:07 am EDT. This has been an eventful six week phase, including a pair of eclipses, Jupiter’s ingress into Gemini, the first contact of Uranus square Pluto, and the Venus transit of the Sun. … Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"generate_page_header":""},"categories":[1734],"tags":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/58600"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=58600"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/58600\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=58600"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=58600"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=58600"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}