{"id":52298,"date":"2012-01-24T02:07:43","date_gmt":"2012-01-24T07:07:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/?p=52298"},"modified":"2012-01-24T17:22:53","modified_gmt":"2012-01-24T22:22:53","slug":"ceres-uranus-in-aries-who-cares-what-mom-thinks","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/astro-daily\/ceres-uranus-in-aries-who-cares-what-mom-thinks\/","title":{"rendered":"Ceres-Uranus in Aries: Who cares what Mom thinks?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Today is Tuesday, Jan. 24, 2012<\/strong><\/a>. What would you do if you weren\u2019t worried about what your mother might think? I know you may be thinking, \u2018I am self-aware! I read Planet Waves and talk about masturbation! I\u2019m not subject to mom-guilt!\u201d And you may be right. <\/p>\n

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But the thing is \u2013 especially in western culture \u2013 the inner critic and judge tends to be a holographic version of a parent. For most women, this is \u2018mother\u2019, and it has a tendency to masquerade as us<\/em>, mimicking our voice. Sometimes it pipes up before we even realize we\u2019ve been thinking a \u2018threatening\u2019 thought, blending seamlessly into our conception of self.<\/p>\n

It takes a lot of work \u2013 often with professional help \u2013 to be able to catch the hair\u2019s-breadth moment before the inner mom-judge grafts itself onto a glimmer of authentic Self trying to shine out. This is especially true for daughters. The funny thing is, mothers can be just as debilitated by their own insistence on living for their children, and insisting that children live for them, instead of living their own lives. <\/p>\n

It\u2019s all over the place \u2013 so don\u2019t go thinking you\u2019re the only one with a dysfunctional mother-daughter relationship. Eric says he\u2019s still counseling women in their 50s whose mothers are dead<\/em> not to worry what their mother will think: \u201cI am visualizing the skeleton in the casket in the ground and they are like, oh Mother! I can’t do that, I must get married.\u201d And as I write this, I’m trying to figure out if I’m a selfish daughter if I don’t want to drive my mom to the airport at 4:30 am \u2013 on a workday — after sleeping on my lumpy futon in my living room, so that I can work late if I need to and she can go to sleep early, in preparation for her flight to the Bahamas. So she doesn\u2019t have to pay for parking at the airport for 8 days.<\/p>\n

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But guess what? We have some crackling astrology to help all of us out with this.<\/p>\n

Calling the theme is Ceres conjunct Uranus on the Aries Point, in the second degree of Aries. For sure, our use of food as an emotional coping mechanism in lieu of real emotional nourishment is woven into this moment and asking for attention. But Uranus there is shouting for self-actualization. Ceres lends some specificity to the message: we\u2019re talking about self<\/em>-actualization, not actualizing your daughter<\/em> for her; self-actualization, not actualizing your mother\u2019s unlived life<\/em> for her.<\/p>\n

This can push buttons \u2013 especially if you aren\u2019t fully aware they\u2019re there. The beauty of this conjunction\u2019s placement is that it offers a little objectivity to the process. The Sabian symbol for 2 Aries is, \u201cA comedian reveals human nature.\u201d If you\u2019re just now seeing your own mother-daughter dynamic more clearly, can you step back just enough out of any guilt, pain, rage or confusion that may be welling up from that matrix to get a more objective view of it? And if you can, can you see the humor in how damned absurd it is? Yes, it\u2019s a sad state of cultural affairs. But if you can allow yourself at least one laugh at the very idea of trying to live anyone\u2019s life but your own, you\u2019ve just taken a step back into yourself. <\/p>\n

Oh \u2013 and if you\u2019re a man, here are some questions for you, too: Do you recognize the power that mothers have over the women in your life, or is this just \u2018part of the scenery\u2019? What might change about your interactions with women if you could see the internal dynamics for what they are? Do you experience anything similar with your mother or your daughter?<\/p>\n

The sky now and for the next few days is brimming with the theme of women, being a woman, being sexual, being free, feeling what you feel, and how much of your feeling body is really your mother\u2019s. Venus is conjunct Vesta (exact Saturday) in Pisces and square the lunar nodes (which is where Vesta has just been). This is some fully-expressed feminine consciousness, with Pisces lending its spiritual, creative flavor to how we explore and express it. Let it grease the wheels Ceres-Uranus is sparking into motion.<\/p>\n

Meanwhile, Mars has just taken an uncharacteristic step back behind the curtain in Virgo as the feminine takes center stage \u2013 though he does oppose Venus next week. Is he going to have a conference with the Goddess or fuck a virgin? Which would you<\/em> want, given the choice? There\u2019s no right answer \u2013 no matter what your mother (or daughter) may think.<\/p>\n

Looking for insights on how this week’s astrology affects your<\/strong> personal Sun and rising signs? Try out Planet Waves Light<\/strong><\/a>, our streamlined horoscope service. For deeper cultural context and astrological investigation, the premium Planet Waves subscription<\/strong><\/a> includes the same horoscopes, plus extensively-researched articles on Fridays.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Today is Tuesday, Jan. 24, 2012. What would you do if you weren\u2019t worried about what your mother might think? I know you may be thinking, \u2018I am self-aware! I read Planet Waves and talk about masturbation! I\u2019m not subject to mom-guilt!\u201d And you may be right. But the thing is \u2013 especially in western … Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7221,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"generate_page_header":""},"categories":[1734],"tags":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/52298"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7221"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=52298"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/52298\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=52298"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=52298"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=52298"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}