{"id":47569,"date":"2011-10-19T00:01:21","date_gmt":"2011-10-19T04:01:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/?p=47569"},"modified":"2011-10-18T23:35:02","modified_gmt":"2011-10-19T03:35:02","slug":"marriage-in-the-air-sun-juno-in-libra","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/astro-daily\/marriage-in-the-air-sun-juno-in-libra\/","title":{"rendered":"Marriage in the Air: Sun-Juno in Libra"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Today is Wednesday, Oct. 19, 2011<\/strong><\/a>. Tonight, the waning Cancer Moon reaches last quarter phase at 11:30 pm EDT. On its way to squaring the Sun, the Moon squares Saturn. It\u2019s urging us to feel any tension between how we feel about our relationships and their structures \u2013 and perhaps our parents\u2019 relationship versus our own. It\u2019s kind of a warm-up to the Sun conjunct Juno in Libra at the end of the week. When the symbol of Self hooks up with the archetypal wife in the sign of relationships and balance, the subject of marriage is in the air.<\/p>\n

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I recently received an email from a long-time best friend who\u2019s been thrown by the news of her ex-husband about to marry again. It really seems to have sideswiped her; heavy baggage and shadow material from the last ten years or so is bubbling up. See, when she was diagnosed with MS a decade ago, she realized that her MFA in writing poetry was cool, but it was time to re-conceive how she might spend her remaining working years. She decided to go to nursing school. She\u2019s a Virgo, by the way, and as brilliant, talented, compassionate, considerate and articulate as they come. Her husband couldn\u2019t deal with any of it, and without warning, actually woke up in bed one day with the words, \u201cI want a divorce\u201d on his lips.<\/p>\n

My friend is now a respected labor and delivery RN, madly in love with a man who sounds perfect for her and who moved with her to California. But all of a sudden, at the news of her ex\u2019s marriage, she\u2019s realizing how terrified she is that no one will ever want to stick by her when the MS gets bad and she becomes a \u2018burden\u2019. She\u2019s afraid to ask her current partner for any accommodations; afraid to appear weak and needy. The scary disease had been bad news, but at the time she thought the person who had sworn to be with her forever actually would be \u2013 and she\u2019s still carrying resentment about how unilaterally he decided to terminate the relationship. And yes, she wanted to be the one to remarry first; to be able to say, to herself if not to anyone else, “See? I’m not the problem here. Someone else wants to be with me, even though I come with a self-destruct sequence already programmed in. You might not have been man enough to cope with that, but other people are.\u201d<\/p>\n

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I hate to see my friend in this pain; I\u2019m glad to know she is seeing a therapist about it all. And when she mentioned that she and her partner have discussed marriage, but he is nowhere near ready yet (for one thing, he has not yet found a job in the two years since moving to CA), I wondered how much she\u2019s inclined to lean on a new marriage to tell her she\u2019s whole. Many of us tend to define ourselves in terms of marriage and coupling \u2013 even those of us who have a lot of our shit together. <\/p>\n

I\u2019m wondering how the heck we can climb out of that frame of mind if we want to. Because, let\u2019s face it, the conditioning is many, many generations strong. It\u2019s probably part of our familial karma and DNA at this point. Some of us even have natal charts leaning pretty heavily in that direction. It\u2019s reinforced all around us.<\/p>\n

Just look at some of the ways marriage has been in the news, most notably the efforts to legalize same-sex marriage. In February of this year, President Obama told the Department of Justice to stop defending the Defense of Marriage Act against lawsuits challenging its constitutionality. In June we saw New York state pass a law legalizing same-sex marriage. Almost exactly at the midpoint between those two policy changes, the world tuned in to the royal wedding of William and Catherine. Amidst everything else going on with marriage news, we\u2019ve been served up two heaping courses of \u2018marriage equality\u2019 and a slice of fantasy wedding cake for dessert. <\/p>\n

Yet it\u2019s all about getting a hold of this thing that may not even work well anymore; that the recent astrology seems to be pushing against; that often serves as a screen against self-awareness; and that has its basis in property law. I\u2019m sorry, but I wonder sometimes if the push to get same-sex marriage is just a distraction from the deeper inquiries into relationship and Self we could engage in. And the whole royal fairytale thing, well, that goes without saying \u2013 or at least it should. But \u2018happily ever after\u2019 has subtle ways of sneaking into even the most self-actualized psyches. <\/p>\n

I realize that for many, marriage works. From what I can tell, those are the marriages in which a fair amount of recognition and respect of the individuals involved balances with the concept of partnership. Maybe it\u2019s not marriage that is broken, but simply the way we tend to approach it, cling to it and assign it to relationships that are not ready for it — often as individuals who are not ready for it. <\/p>\n

There is a lot to sort through; we won\u2019t get all the answers in the next few days. My friend won’t work through all of her fears in one therapy session. But we already know that personal-planet aspects to Uranus<\/a> are throwing us curveballs and sparks, so who knows when a personal breakthrough may occur? I’m just as guilty as anyone of tending to ground my sense of Self in relationships, and have plenty of work to do there. This week, between the Moon and Saturn and the Sun and Juno, the planets are asking us about marriage. So\u2026 what about it?<\/p>\n

By Amanda Painter<\/em><\/p>\n

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