{"id":22357,"date":"2010-02-08T11:57:47","date_gmt":"2010-02-08T16:57:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/?p=22357"},"modified":"2010-02-08T13:09:53","modified_gmt":"2010-02-08T18:09:53","slug":"featured-response-from-indrani","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/daily-astrology\/featured-response-from-indrani\/","title":{"rendered":"Featured response: from Indrani"},"content":{"rendered":"

Over the weekend, I published a series of sex oldies from prior years of Planet Waves. This was my Superbowl Sunday\/Venus-Chiron-Neptune offering to the universe. A reader named Indrani replied with this letter as a public response, which I would offer for your consideration and gentle reply. Offered by me for resolution to Radharani. –efc<\/em><\/p>\n

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Radharani, beloved goddess of the universe.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Dear Eric,<\/p>\n

What you write about sex is very interesting. I’m a Sydney (Australia)-based lawyer (yes, I see myself as a lawyer — saw a mini-series called ‘Jesus of Nazareth’ when I was seven and thought: “that man should have had someone to stand up for him…”) but I have had a very deep interest in sex from an early age (I wrote a master’s thesis on sex in contemporary Indian literature about six years ago).<\/p>\n

I always found interesting the responses of men and women to me and as I got older (I’m 38 now), it is totally clear that these responses were largely sexual in nature (either wanting to have sex with me — I was an intellectually\u00a0 precocious kid\u00a0 — or (in the case of women), not wanting me anywhere near their husbands. I thought it was a ‘problem’ with me but over the last few years (going through my ’emancipation’ and self-awakening, I began to realise that the problem is not with me — I’m actually very cool (ie very accepting) of sex as a normal and healthy form of self-expression and especially deeply-felt affection and plain-old garden variety intimacy.<\/p>\n

As a communicative, self-expressive (and straight) woman, I am shocked at how difficult it is for me to actually get any sex! The sexual politics men (and this seems to be more to do with men than women) wrap themselves in is astonishing. It may be intimacy-based fear, and as you say, a direct problem stemming from religious hang-ups. Understandable if you’re from a Judeo-Christian-Islamic background, but what if you are a Hindu (like me) where sex is just as ordinary as the Sun rising (nothing ‘ordinary’ about either miracle, you’ll say — and you’ll be right)? Hindus worship Shiva and Kali – very sexual deities — the linga and yoni — the penis and vagina. The fundamental belief in our religion is that there are TWO deities, male and female and both are equally necessary (interestingly, there is also much literature dedicated to homosexuality — also a natural and healthy expression in Hinduism. It’s an animisitic religion largely — the plant and animal world is filled with examples of homo and other sexuality, so that may be why the ancient texts are so hip with it all).<\/p>\n

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But back to me (Leo in first, baby and with a couple of very solid Aries chucked into the mix!). Intelligent woman, well-rounded woman can’t get sex. And to make it easy for men, I’m very much a womanly woman (and I have a 16 year old daughter), but still no sex, and when I REALLY reach out, it’s horrible sex so I don’t bother anymore (and the Lonely Act is simply that — lonely and no damn fun).<\/p>\n

Major conundrum — I’ve sorted out the rest of my life, slayed all my demons, have a clean, healthy sense of self and am actually a happy person (and I agree, we really need to bring back the concept of ‘self-actualisation’) EXCEPT, to quote the Stones, “can’t get no satisfaction.” And I don’t believe that I attract ‘men who hate women’ — I think most men love women, or want to, but there is something very deep-rooted in a man’s relationship with his mother and something men can’t seem to get beyond. I’m going to upset the feminists (I’m for equality — in the old Hindu-sense that is) and say, I think we need to go back and look at how women mother their babies (male and female). In my opinion, mothers are the most powerful people on the planet — they hold the power of life and death over their babies — mother well and you have a healthy child, get it wrong and you’ve created a little bundle of mess.<\/p>\n

We need to re-think mothering, and in order to do that, we need to go backwards to a time when it wasn’t a bad thing to be a mother. I love being a mother — when I was a kid, I only ever had two ambitions — to be a mother and a lawyer, and that’s it.\u00a0 I’ve done a lot more since then, but mothering well is still my Number One priority. We need to re-think the power of women — to rediscover the Goddess all the New Agers so love to invoke, but also to remember that the Goddess was never about overpowering men, she is about playing a complementary role to men (and with exactly the same importance, the [Hindu] masculine God was about playing a complementary role to woman). So well did the Hindus understand this that they named the Goddess ‘Shakti’ — ‘Strength’.<\/p>\n

I wish the Age of Aquarius would get cracking — I really need to get me some good healthy sex! And as for marriage and partnerships — I witnessed the ‘perfect’ marriage — my grandparents’ marriage. In an age where women were kept down, he left the family home (500 years old, that house) and moved his wife to the Temple House (itself pushing 140 or so years — and right on the banks of the Ganges near Calcutta) so that she and he could live in freedom. It was my grandparents (not my parents – you can take a horse to water it seems, but you can’t make it drink) who taught me the Beautiful Path, the righteous and loving way of living in harmony with each other, the energies of the planet, celebrating everything beautiful and everything and glorious in life. Karma-yoga is my ‘religious’ practise – everything thought, every act, everything dedicated to the greater glory of God, the Goddess, and life itself — from rescuing kittens, to learning your school lessons, and of course, to loving yourself and raising your children.<\/p>\n

The irony is, it’s not actually that hard to do — all it takes is seeing, understanding, and mostly, looking at the sky and trees and All Things Beautiful (and yes, I have a Taurus sun). Honestly, humanity needs to take a collective breath — otherwise, I many NEVER get any sex! And I’m sure my grandparents — who were sexual beings well into old age — didn’t have a sexless future in mind when they poured all that joy into me…<\/p>\n

[Apologies for the length of this — I’ve been thinking about this for years and my neck is beginning to ache from all the nodding I do when I read your stuff]<\/p>\n

In Beauty, my friend,<\/p>\n

Indrani<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Over the weekend, I published a series of sex oldies from prior years of Planet Waves. This was my Superbowl Sunday\/Venus-Chiron-Neptune offering to the universe. A reader named Indrani replied with this letter as a public response, which I would offer for your consideration and gentle reply. Offered by me for resolution to Radharani. –efc … Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"generate_page_header":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22357"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=22357"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22357\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=22357"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=22357"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=22357"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}