{"id":15500,"date":"2009-06-04T11:17:30","date_gmt":"2009-06-04T16:17:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/?p=15500"},"modified":"2009-06-04T11:28:27","modified_gmt":"2009-06-04T16:28:27","slug":"book-of-blue-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/daily-astrology\/book-of-blue-2\/","title":{"rendered":"The nature of shame and guilt"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>For those who follow the Book of Blue series, there is a new thread on <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/bookofblue.com\/txp\/\" target=\"_self\">the nature of shame and guilt<\/a><\/strong>. Book of Blue does not have a comments area; but those who wish to reflect on any of the points I bring up are welcome to do so here.<\/p>\n<p>Here is an excerpt:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Just how insidious an emotion shame is deserves some reflection. One of those forms is, &#8220;What would my father\/mother think if they saw me like this?&#8221; Or, &#8220;What would my husband\/wife think if they knew I had this feeling or concept?&#8221; These internalized expectations of others, which lead us to make choices to prevent us from allegedly being shamed by others, are basically a means to hide things about ourselves from ourselves; to not explore ourselves; and to exist in an incomplete state of existence, nearly all the time.<\/p>\n<p>Shame has a parallel concept, which is dignity. I know that dignity is one of those things that everyone extols as a virtue (along with pride), but I would like to open the topic that most dignity, or the impulse to preserve dignity, is a pretense for covering up what we are ashamed of, leaving the real material below the surface, hidden and thus unaddressed. If dignity becomes an excuse for not exploring what we feel ashamed of, it&#8217;s <em>false dignity<\/em>. This is about the &#8220;appearance of being good&#8221; and adjusting how we present ourselves to the expectations of others. This becomes yet another burden &#8211; one of the biggest we carry in both Eastern and Western civilizations.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>For those who follow the Book of Blue series, there is a new thread on the nature of shame and guilt. Book of Blue does not have a comments area; but those who wish to reflect on any of the points I bring up are welcome to do so here. Here is an excerpt: Just &#8230; <a title=\"The nature of shame and guilt\" class=\"read-more\" href=\"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/daily-astrology\/book-of-blue-2\/\" aria-label=\"More on The nature of shame and guilt\">Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"generate_page_header":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15500"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=15500"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15500\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=15500"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=15500"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=15500"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}