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<\/a>Somewhere in the dreamtime this morning I had the idea to write a brief post expressing why it is that Planet Waves and many of my other projects over the years focus on sex and various forms of eroticism; that is to say, the mission behind the message. On another world or in another time I might not need to explain that, or even do this work; and because we live in a culture where false sexuality and in particular fraudulent sexual imagery is basically forced on us, it may to some seem like more of the same.<\/p>\n
If you’ve come to Planet Waves seeking or expecting to find an astrology website, you might find this focus surprising. Jonathan Cainer once said to me that there is no place for a discussion of sex on a proper astrology website, so I will take that as a mark of distinction. I believe that humanity is in yet another dark night of the soul where our sexuality is concerned, though some would say it’s the same dark night we’ve been in since Constantine’s day.<\/p>\n
Collectively, we suffer from ignorance and being unfree. Both of these are cultivated like fields of wheat. A few individuals have risen above this, but most have not and our major cultural institutions have not and there are relatively few places to either find information to dispel ignorance, or to encourage freedom. I am here to do both. I view this calling less about the work of the Bodhisattva<\/strong><\/a> and more about something that is simply human — though I am gradually, though my art and writing about sexuality, deducing some of the basic concepts of Buddhism, and of Tantra. (I am not trained in either of these disciplines, or at least not any time recently.)<\/p>\n I don’t have an ‘ideal’ sex life and my emphasis on sexuality in words and images is not an accurate reflection of my actual experience. I mean this as a proportion; that is, I write from experience; I would just like more of it. In the context of a very long struggle, I have created an interesting experience of sex and sexuality. I share unusual intimacies with some amazing women and I’ve taken the freedom to explore men as well. But I’ve often found myself reaching for simple comforts without much success. Lately I am noticing, however, that I’ve created an experience of life that is unique and beautiful despite any difficulties in my past.<\/p>\n In my natal chart I have Mars conjunct Chiron (in Pisces), and I have Venus in the degree of Taurus where Chiron was discovered in 1977; so in effect I have Chiron conjunct both Venus and Mars. With that arrangement, I am deeply sensitive to both the pain and the pleasure of eroticism, and of gender identity. And I experience sexuality on a cosmic level that translates easily to spiritual awareness.<\/p>\n I take the whole experience as a healing journey; and finally I have grown to a space where my most organic response to eroticism of any kind is compassion, in the form known to some as compersion. That is to say that the pleasure of other people, particularly the women in my life, is as important to me as anything that I might get to experience personally. I’ve reached a point whether someone I love gets to experience pleasure and love with me or with someone else are about the same thing.<\/p>\n Partly with the help of therapy, and partly through experiencing the work of other artists and writers, I figured out how trapped by cultural demands I was: from compulsory heterosexuality to compulsory monogamy to compulsory use of sex as a bargaining chip, tether, game or basis of deception. And in acquiring that information, I embarked on the mission of setting myself free, and by that I mean free to love and embrace humanity on my own terms. I want to love the way I love, not the way someone tells me that I have to — in particular someone who is themselves struggling with (for example) what their Catholic upbringing did to them.<\/p>\n From there it was a short step to focusing what I was learning, on the presumption or intuition that there might be something universal about my experience. I learned that the vast sources of the damage and misinformation and inhumane values I was finding were affecting nearly everyone.<\/p>\n So in that true Chirotic style, my personal quest or struggle became a path of healing and invention that could be expressed and shared in a way that might benefit someone besides myself. I am blessed to have ease of putting words to thoughts and feelings, I am difficult to embarrass (in the negative sense of the word) and I’m an elegant enough writer to be able to express myself in a way that doesn’t offend too many people, and actually might reach a few others. So as someone who has the ability to reach people, to reach a segment of the public, I am committed to holding open a space for an honest conversation about our erotic and relational experiences; I wish there was a word that didn’t split up those two concepts, since to me they are the same thing.<\/p>\n We need one another; we need to share and give and receive. We need one another as witnesses to our process. We need to offer pleasure as no big deal for no reason other than kindness. We need people with healing gifts to focus those gifts on healing the many, many sexual wounds that we seem to carry. We need to make the sexual conversation safe to have, by having it. We need to think of sexuality not as a thing that affects minorities (gay people, or swingers, or whoever) but as the one thing among a few that all of humanity has in common — and that belongs to us exclusively.<\/p>\n We can be free, and by free I mean that with the full implication of loving responsibility. Yet to be free we need one another. We need one another’s affirmation, and commitment to protecting those who dare. Today, this Beltane, the sabbat of the Goddess, I would call on you to grant yourself more freedom: the freedom to share, to bestow pleasure and to get your own desires fulfilled. At the same time, take a breath and rise above your jealousy and help the people around you be free. Say yes to what they want, and to what you want. Insist on honesty and be willing to give up whatever you need to give up (generally, anything rooted in deception) in order to have that honesty.<\/p>\n How you feel about sex is how you feel about life. Life is what we came here for, though I know that sometimes we forget. So as long as I get a place to express myself, I’m going to remind both of us.<\/p>\n All in all I think we need to find more reasons not to be afraid than all the ones we give ourselves to be afraid.<\/p>\n In the words of Valentine Michael Smith<\/a>, drink deeply.<\/p>\n Love and lovingly,<\/p>\n Friends, Romans, Pagans, Before I head for Northampton, MA in a few minutes, I’m here to send my Beltane greetings. Today is the day that the Sun crossed over the midpoint of Taurus, which is one measure of this cross-quarter holiday — the backbone of the Pagan calendar. 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