{"id":13976,"date":"2009-04-21T08:36:47","date_gmt":"2009-04-21T13:36:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/?p=13976"},"modified":"2009-04-21T11:26:29","modified_gmt":"2009-04-21T16:26:29","slug":"compersion-venus-mars","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/daily-astrology\/compersion-venus-mars\/","title":{"rendered":"Venus and Mars are alright tonight"},"content":{"rendered":"

For all you old Wings fans, here is Venus and Mars\/Rockshow\/Jet<\/a> from the Wings Over America era. “Long hair at the Madison Square \/ Rock and roll at the Hollywood Bowl.” Here is the studio version of Venus and Mars<\/a>\/Rockshow<\/a>.
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Dear Friend and Reader:<\/p>\n

Venus and Mars are conjunct in the last degree of Pisces. The last degree of Pisces is the last degree of the zodiac, which I love for a number of reasons: it’s the end of the great cycle, and a seed point in the beginning of the next story. Its theme involves visualization of our lives. Though we rarely do it, visualizing is a take-charge moment in our lives, where we engage the process of creating the future. It’s also one degree from the Aries Point, and I believe that it is a kind of mirror of the point; it’s the transpersonal side of the equation, where Aries is the personal side of the equation.<\/p>\n

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Cover of the 1975 album "Venus and Mars" by Paul McCartney and Wings."A good friend of mine follows the stars \/ Venus and Mars are alright tonight."<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Because this conjunction involves Venus and Mars, gender and sexual relationships are implied. These could be between men and women, people of the same gender, or our complex internal orientations that help determine how we relate to others. Most people probably don’t think of it this way, but when you relate to another person you can imagine that your inner male (animus<\/em>) and your inner female (anima<\/em>) are each relating to the anima and animus of the person you’re communicating with. Because the ego is so involved in projection, we will tend to replicate our inner relationship in the outer world with others.<\/p>\n

This is one of my rationales for suggesting that in order to have sane sexual relationships with those around us, we need to have them with ourselves, as consciously as possible embracing our inner diversity and giving all aspects of ourselves a voice. In fact for the sexes to get along at all we need to be in inner alignment with our sexual polarities and then extend that into the world as a conscious act.<\/p>\n

In my own visualization of relationships, I do my best to live in a world where the women around me are in harmony; and where I am in harmony with the men who surround the women I love. I can give you an example of this. I’ve worked with Chelsea, our business manager, for about six years; most of you have talked to her or corresponded with her. We have never been ‘amorously’ involved — she’s Example One of monogamy that works well, with her husband T.J., whom she was with from before I met her. I met Chelsea and T.J. at the same time. I’m close to Chelsea and I adore her husband. I get along with him and we are two Fish who oddly enough have exactly the same taste in music. T.J. knows I love Chelsea like the ocean, and I feel nothing but his approval and respect for that.<\/p>\n

This is possible because we all trust one another, and we’re committed to the same thing.<\/p>\n

Chelsea gets along with the other women in my life, all of whom either talk to her or work with her at one time or another. She happens to be exceptionally good at spreading peace and harmony in her environment. Personally I am vigilant about choosing women who get along with the women around me, and unchoosing them if they are competitive with the women around me. This whole process is a bit of wisdom from Tantra. Men in harmony around powerful women. Women in harmony around powerful men. This is how we focus our power: by not dividing ourselves amongst relationships that are divisive.<\/p>\n

Where I share sexual energy with a woman (including affection or desire), I extend the same idea, seeking to harmonize myself with her whole sexuality and sexual experience in life. This is called compersion. That is about extending compassion for another person’s pleasure, passion, love and freedom. Far from alienating me from the women around me, this tends to draw me much closer than I have ever been to them. I have, gradually taught myself to turn my jealous, competitive instincts into something communicative and allowing; and to fully embrace the sexual and emotional freedom of the women I want and love and to a real degree depend on for my sanity and survival. When I love someone this is the first gift I extend; I see their humanity in their power of choice and their freedom to feel.<\/p>\n

If I am attracted to someone I am going to be turned on by whoever she chooses to love or have sex with. This is a choice, or you could say it’s an observation of something already there. This way, the experience is nourishing and not depleting. In this equation, I leave the door open for her to choose me if she wants, and how she wants.<\/p>\n

This may sound a little odd to some men, who want to grab a chick and call her their own; or to women who would no sooner consciously allow their male partner to share sex or love with another woman than they would jump off of a building.<\/p>\n

Most people will not allow the mere thought of openness into their minds, but then we have been taught for generations that the only solution to the problem of freedom is to make prisoners of one another. I can tell you this. It’s an excellent, and efficient way to draw in emotional and erotic pleasure all the time, from anyone I want, and to give back something to the world that it has nearly none of. I can experience the pleasure of knowing the most ‘inaccessible’ woman, without having to cut myself off, by embracing her emotional and sexual choices; and by being open to receiving the energetic benefits of her pleasure.<\/p>\n

I can affirm the life of anyone I love by breathing into harmony with her freedom to be who she is — and very few women ever get that from a man. And they just as rarely get it from another woman. I am learning that women are often notoriously brutal to one another when they choose to express their freedom. This is one of the many ways that women hold one another back on the long journey to empowerment; a journey that will require everyone’s support.<\/p>\n

This has been a truly beautiful (if at times difficult) exploration of encountering women as whole people rather than halves of a relationship, or incomplete beings seeking fulfillment in another. As I do this I grow into my own wholeness, seeking relationships for pleasure, growth, creativity and understanding rather than because I feel incomplete.<\/p>\n

My vision today for Venus conjunct Mars in this cosmically creative last degree of Pisces is that those of us who are turned on by this possibility speak up about it, reach out to one another, and design a world where we openly support each others’ freedom. In this, I think we can find a level of true security and dependable sources of emotional nourishment, rather than constantly feeling like we are on the outside.<\/p>\n

There is more than enough love, pleasure and emotional nourishment to go around. There is more than enough food, money, and safe shelter. No mater what we do, people will indeed be free. This is true even if we sell ourselves short or short circuit our own power till we realize it is better to be in harmony with ourselves and thus with one another, than at war and strife. Humans do need this explained and when possible demonstrated. I know we live in a world where jealousy is considered precious, and we cling to it even as it drives us apart. I assure you there is something much more precious that draws us together. And that can be the basis of true community of love and conscience.<\/p>\n

\"Eric<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

PS, I thought the only lonely place was on the Moon.
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For all you old Wings fans, here is Venus and Mars\/Rockshow\/Jet from the Wings Over America era. “Long hair at the Madison Square \/ Rock and roll at the Hollywood Bowl.” Here is the studio version of Venus and Mars\/Rockshow. Dear Friend and Reader: Venus and Mars are conjunct in the last degree of Pisces. … Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"generate_page_header":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13976"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13976"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13976\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13976"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13976"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/planetwaves.net\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13976"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}