You're starting to feel like you have some potential, but what you think of as ethics are still getting in the way. You can keep chewing on this question of right and wrong, but sooner or later (as the Buddhists would say) you have to swallow. Here is the issue. You have your own view on the dilemma, but you haven't figured out the vast extent to which your own priorities are invested in or under the dominion of another person. And it seems like you want to impress this person with how genteel and polite and kind you are (that is the hook), which directly contradicts your plan for action in the world. Let's face it: you're not as nice as your public relations department says. It's not that you're mean; it's just that you seem to be working out plans you're not talking about. My own public relations department is currently working diligently to get the word 'nice' taken out of the dictionary. We're starting with the 'n'.