Neither Fantasy Nor Fear — Venus Opposing Neptune

Indulge neither fantasy nor fear as Venus moves through Virgo to oppose Neptune in Pisces at 6:51 am EDT (10:51 UT) tomorrow, and you’ll be positioned to handle what relationship has brought you since Friday. Venus entered Virgo on Friday, probably followed soon thereafter by some relationship situation entering (or re-entering) your life.

Astrology by Len Wallick

The nature of the relationship situation that precipitated soon after Venus made ingress to Virgo at 1:07 pm EDT (17:07 UT) necessarily varies from one person to the next, yet with one probable common thread.

The common thread would have been yesterday’s Pisces Full Moon at 9:38 pm EDT (or 1:38 am UT this morning), possibly accompanied by a sense of exasperation.

Exasperation, perhaps, for what remains unresolved for you in relationship, either since Friday or since even further back in time. Fortunately, tomorrow’s opposition from Venus to Neptune is taking place along the same sign axis (Virgo to Pisces) as yesterday’s Full Moon.

Fortunate, but not because the Venus-Neptune opposition will necessarily bring the resolution you crave. Because instead, one way or another (but probably also through relationship), a deeper understanding of your emergent (or re-emerged) relationship situation will be accompanied by a broader range of options for you to address when Venus and Neptune follow the Full Moon’s act.

First, however, you must refrain from indulging both the downside of opposition aspects and the downside of what Venus and Neptune represent in common.

Oppositions have an undeserved reputation of signifying conflict, when really they are so much more. On the level of actual events, we perceive two planetary objects to be opposed as Earth moves between them. On the zodiac circle, the actual event translates as the respective symbols of those two objects occupying the same degree of opposite signs.

In astrology, opposite signs are almost never opponents. Rather, opposing signs reflect each other as if in a mirror. Specific to the Virgo-Pisces opposition, Eric likes to quote the late, great Patric Walker who cogently observed that if you scratch the surface of Pisces, you will likely find Virgo just beneath.

Hence, while the potential for conflict cannot be ruled out, oppositions go deeper for astrologers to represent the basis of all relationships — something in common.

Which is interesting, because Venus and Neptune have something in common. Some astrologers even go so far as to say that Venus and Neptune represent different octaves of the same archetype, one that manifests most often in your life as idealism.

Idealism is not bad. Without ideals, you would have even less to guide you through a confusing world. Ideals held in common form the bonds that hold all sorts of relationships together.

Yet ideals must be realized (made real) to have any meaning beyond fantasy, which is where your participation as a member of the solar system comes in about now.

That’s because you are now moving between Venus and Neptune, which puts you in the position of both mediating their differences and manifesting what they have in common.

The nature of your role as mediator and manifestant will be as unique and specific as your relationship situation. Yet there are some common guidelines suggested by the astrology.

First, eschew any fantasy about your newly emerged (or re-emerged) situation simply resolving itself. Sweeping things under the proverbial carpet now will not be helpful down the road. As an alternative, consider offering that long-withheld apology, paying the debt, or otherwise clearing the air in common between you and another so as to see your own reflection more clearly.

Next, and perhaps most difficult, neither fear nor foment conflict. Look for options. When it comes to real-life relationship situations that correlate with astrological oppositions, there are at least three alternatives to conflict.

The first alternative is to ground the energy of conflict in a mutually creative endeavor. In other words, focus on what’s in common. Act in unison rather than making differences (which are often superficial anyway) the defining means by which you relate.

Another alternative (especially if your relationship situation finds you moving uneasily between two opposing poles of conflict) is to shuttle between both the polar extremes, negotiating with both separately and simultaneously until your situation (at least) has been grounded.

As a third alternative to conflict, you may want to hold the tension you feel in your relationship situation until an opportunity for either creative or negotiated resolution presents itself.

Finally, and only as a last resort, sometimes it’s best to have it out. Should that be your election, please understand that it will be up to you to engage conflict in a conscientious manner so as to make sure the end result is in fact a resolution and not an exacerbated continuation of the same old stuff — only worse.

For the outcome (or lack thereof) of any relationship situation that represents your place in common with what started (or re-started) late last week will somehow contribute to more than the course of just your life.

Just as Venus will be opposing Neptune for all of us tomorrow, it’s important for you to know that you and your relationship situation do not exist in a vacuum. The astrology of our era, and of our moment in common, indicates above all that there is something more than just you going on, and you are part of how it all turns out.

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11 thoughts on “Neither Fantasy Nor Fear — Venus Opposing Neptune”

  1. Awww, Len. You are so wonderful, charming and warm. Thank you. I truly appreciate your contribution here on Planet Waves, and look forward to your insight daily. And thank you for making me feel welcome. Sometimes it is hard to tell whether I am correct in my comments, and not overstepping.

    Some interesting facts came to light about the situation, or more exactly one of the people involved, that I was referring to in my imagined grand cross explosion with thought of slamming on the brakes multiple car pile up (well, the impulse that wasn’t followed through). Natally speaking, the full moon was on her Sun (17-08 Virgo in the 6th) and my Pluto/Uranus (18-17/19-24) conjunction in my 2nd. Not only that, but her Moon is conjunct my Mercury in Cap in her 10th (my 6th, with transiting Pluto sitting there), her Pholus/Pallas is conjunct my Sun, her Chiron opposite my Jupiter, her Vesta exactly conjunct my Ascendent, her natal Uranus exactly opposite my natal Mercury/her Moon, her Jupiter is conjunct my Eris, transiting Pallas and Mercury are opposite her Jupiter, her natal Venus exactly conjunct transiting Venus and opposite Neptune, her Juno is conjunct my Moon and SN (and Mars is moving on in… – a note here, her husband is involved, and this is opposite my natal: Panacea – 2-24, NN 3-30, Psyche 4-41, Nessus 4-49, Dionysis 5-50, and Atlantis 7-12 – all retrograde except Atlantis) and transiting photo is sitting right there on the whole full moon/her sun/my pluto uranus spot… a chunk of this situation currently has to do with video and photo elements, and there are several other ‘connections’ in the chart… clearly there is a lesson to be learned and some karma afloat. Also, true colors and true insight into true natures, burst forth during this full moon. The illusion was shattered. And I was surprised to see her chart in comparison to mine. Quite the new bit of info to ponder. Maybe this was way too much detail, sorry, but I found it very insightful.

  2. beth: Thank you for so courageously sharing the complex and subtle nature of your situation (as well as the sophisticated and sublime nature of your perception and resolve) in holistic correlation with the Sagittarius stellium of similarly interpreted objects Eric referred to in his Panet Waves FM broadcast. Your contribution today really helps to flesh out the subject matter of Venus opposing Neptune (while also reminding us of what an important person you are here).

    be: Speaking of important. None more than you for broadening the subject matter and taking us deeper into the astrology with your lucid and learned comments here. YES, forgiveness is so very, very important – not because it can change the past (nothing can do that) but because it can change the future. And YES, wherever Venus is spoken, values are also spoken, especially when Venus invokes relationship while in opposition aspect. Finally, thank you for reiterating on that yod and how it yet persists as part of the transiting background.

  3. Thanks Len. Glad to have you back at the helm. In hindsight (it’s after 7 AM here), I believe the Venus-Neptune opposition to have something to do with forgiveness and the importance of values. I believe that partly due to the mutual reception of Venus (in Mercury’s sign of Virgo) and Mercury (in Venus’ sign of Libra), and Mercury’s simultaneous square with Pluto in Capricorn. At least that’s how it played out for me. Your mileage could vary.

    Perhaps too, the sextile between Sun in Virgo to Saturn in Scorpio that forms a yod with Uranus in Aries contributes to my personal experience of the energy, as it involves old mistakes for which I haven’t forgiven myself for (yet), which have surfaced unexpectedly from the memory file. Nonetheless, it is Venus opposite Neptune that bears the brunt of the expression of these feelings. Oh what a tangled web we weave.
    be

  4. Len, that was just what I needed, to be talked back in the door, set the suitcase down, and to sit with it for awhile before bolting. Or at least that’s how it’s felt to me, like I am going to explode if I don’t make a change, get out of the situation. I have been obsessing about breaking away from the current confines and commitments of a work/client/volunteer situation that is suddenly strange and slightly contentious (it’s vague and foggy). I have been giving too much away, and I want to put the brakes on it, but in reality I guess I need to just slow down and follow your wise steps off the exit ramp to common ground. I have certainly departed other unhealthy situations and people, but the repercussions of moving on without a specific exit strategy in this situation would be a mistake.

    The full moon has distorted reality, it feels like there is a synapse shorting out… but really it’s just a case of insomnia. And, the Full Moon is conjunct my natal Pluto/Uranus Conjunction in 2nd/Virgo, and opposite natal Chiron/Saturn conjuction, all square Jupiter in Gemini in the 11th opposite that cluster of objects in Sagittarius that Eric spoke about in last week’s Planet Waves FM. A lot of intensity. But it also contains some sudden surprises that are related to over five years ago, a serendipitous meeting, and a possible new direction and a way out. Time will tell.

  5. aword: Thank you once again for being so very kind with your assessment of my service here, and for being so generous as to share the the transits to your unique and resonant nativity. You are deeply appreciated here. May the annual transitingsolar conjunction to your natal Part of Fortune be the beginning of an abundant 12 months for you.

    abc123: Thank you for your additional suggestion to add to the options outlined here. You are correct. You should trust your judgement, and sustaining a good relationship with yourself is the priority upon which other relationships are built. And yes, sometimes it is entirely appropriate to disengage when you have done all you can. You have support here.

    Strawberry: Thank you for finding value in my service here. Most of all, thank you for adding your own valuable insights and experiences in dealing with the subject matter. So very grateful to you.

  6. “In astrology, opposite signs are almost never opponents. Rather, opposing signs reflect each other as if in a mirror.”

    Wonderful, Len. A dear friend of mine, whose Venus is opposite my Neptune (within orb of square the current opposition, interestingly), has been helping me see & work through some rather un-beautiful common ground we share. So yeah, I can attest to the importance of not getting lost in fantasy when there’s so much real illumination possible in that Venus-Neptune configuration.

    This “relationship as mirror” phenomenon is perhaps my least-favorite part of being human, though. It is nice to be reminded our mirror doesn’t have to be our adversary, even when we tend to keep seeing our worst traits in that mirror. Thanks for the perspective.

  7. What about strengthening your relationship with yourself in order to then create healthier relationships with others? Definitely seems to be a theme in the news this week, and as I take inventory of my own relationships, I keep returning to the same insight: I have shown up. I have done all that I know of to do. It hasn’t gotten better. It hasn’t changed, yet the easiest default is to question my judgement and stay. Perhaps it is time to trust my judgment, respect myself a little more, and stop engaging with these people altogether.

  8. Thank you len! September 15th, 1991 is when I entered this hunk of rock and I love it. Right after the end of a Giants game. The Giants won, we are Giants fans in CT.

  9. Lovely, Len.
    While tomorrow’s Sun finds itself smack dab upon natal Part of Fortune, Transiting Venus, having just come from a conjunct with natal Pluto opposing natal Sun (there’s that VI/PI axis again) — transiting Venus (2nd house) will be sextile natal Neptune in Scorpio (IC) while of course she opposes transiting Neptune (8th house) who trines natal Neptune. Ah, lovely, isn’t it? Well, and I’ve been feeling all kinds of reality lately — which is probably a very good thing.

    I welcome the good feelings and alternatives to conflict that are currently in the sky!
    Thanks, Len and I hope your move moves along and you are happily settled in your new relationship/s to place and people soon.

  10. Holly: Happy impending birthday! Thank you for sharing your Pisces Full Moon experience. May your solar return at the transiting lunar first quarter find you turning a fortunate corner on the home stretch to your second Jupiter return.

  11. Wow, yesterday was a doozy. It was the first day of my bio lab class, and it took a lot of willpower to not drift into la la land. In fact, I am thinking of taking a long nap right now. The sextile from Saturn to my natal Sun was my saving grace. On a happier note, 7 days until my birthday! The big 23 I will be. And the Monday after that is my first exam. Mondays, Mondays, Mondays.

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